Mom, thank you for your unconditional love, for loving me no matter what, and for frequently showing love in ways that make me feel valued and cherished. I will always be your baby, nothing will ever change… Happy Mother’s Day!

When we fall in love, we automatically give the other person the power to hurt us. Anyone can hurt us, but the wound is especially greater if it’s done to us by someone we love.

I can still remember what it used to be like when I was in a relationship and I was dependent on my partner, emotionally. I needed him to validate my feelings, acknowledge my emotions, and make me happy. I remember what it felt like to be at his mercy. It was my own fault, because I gave him so much power over me. When we broke up, I was struggling to get used to my old self again. I started to rely on myself more for my own happiness.

It’s a great feeling to break free from the power someone has over you. It’s really liberating. Imagine all those times when you would cry over something he said, when you would spend the rest of your day miserable because you had a fight, or what about those times when you let him dictate how you would act? Imagine how it felt like depending your happiness on him. Did it feel good? It made you feel pathetic and alone and trapped, right? When we give our partners power to hurt us, we give them this because of our connection to them. We, in turn, have the power to hurt them too, but we don’t do it because we love them.

Sometimes we hurt the ones we love without meaning to, unintentionally. But this is what love’s all about, right? It’s all part of the package. What we can do is to increase our own self worth, so when the person we love hurts us, it’s easier to get back up and heal. Working towards breaking free of the negative aspects of a relationship is always good advice. And that includes breaking free from harmful energies and things that a relationship is giving you. You owe it to yourself.

Boy: I broke up with her.
His Best Friend: What happened?

Boy: She’s just too much for me.
His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy: Well, for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure..
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..

Boy: Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy: But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..

Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her.
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..

Boy: Well, she..
His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?
His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened..

 Sometimes, all a girl wants is for you to fight for her. Make her believe that you may want this relationship more than she does.

Treat your girl right, bro. Plain and simple. I know it can be hard to please her sometimes, but it’s worth it in the end. Remember that she’s your happiness, your world. She should be the first person you talk to in the morning, and the last person you whisper “Good night” to. Unlike some of your bros, she’s going to be there for you when you’re the happiest, but more importantly, when you’re at your lowest. She’ll cook for you and care for you, so treat her like a queen. Girls are delicate creatures. Think before you say. Think before you act. They take every little mistake you make and multiply it by a thousand. So try not to mess up, alright?

When you’re fighting, sometimes it’s better to put your relationship before your own pride. You’re not helping yourself by making her upset, bro. And never, ever, under any condition, let her go to sleep crying. She’ll resent you for it for the rest of your days. Don’t forget to make her feel special everyday. Open doors, go shopping with her. Hell, make dinner for her! The more you show her you love her, the more she’ll give you in return. Remember that an “I love you” via text is never as special as one in person. And show her off to your bros, don’t be ashamed of her. She’s never been ashamed of your dorky ass. Look, she doesn’t really need much in a relationship; she just wants to feel like she matters to you. That’s not asking for much, bro.

But if you haven’t learned a thing from reading this, remember this. Love her unconditionally, loyally, and keep her close. Love her with everything you’ve got: emotionally, mentally, and physically. Because I swear, if you won’t treat your girl right, someone else definitely will.

”I’m jealous of every girl that has ever hugged you, cause for one moment, they hugged my entire world.”

I know that’s what people say— you’ll get over it. I’d say it, too. But I know it’s not true. Oh, you’ll be happy again, never fear. But you won’t forget. Every time you fall in love it will be because something in the man reminds you of him.