What should I do with my life?

Honestly, I really don’t have an answer to this question right now. There are days when I’d just wake up, go through the motions of everyday life, feeling like each day is just the same old boring routine that I have to go through. It’s like I’m on autopilot, just going through the familiar motions, waking up, going to work, spending 8 hours in front of a desk, then going back home to sleep, repeating the whole cycle again the next day. It’s fine, I do get some enjoyment along the way, in the form of friends, family, loved ones, and interesting happenings, but at the end of the day, I still feel like there’s something missing.

It’s like at the back of my mind, I know that there’s still so much out there for me to do. I have this unsettling feeling that keeps nagging me, making me feel like I’m not supposed to be where I am right now, that I should be somewhere else. I feel like I’m merely existing, contented in living the same old boring routine everyday. My inner voice is practically screaming to me, telling me that I should be doing something else with my life, and not waste it behind some desk, doing a boring, mind-dulling job day after day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for my job, it has helped me a lot. But right now, I feel like 3 years is enough, and I have this urge to move on and try something new.

I’ve tried convincing myself, I’ve tried extending my patience, I’ve tried coming up with reasons for me to stay where I am… and I’ve done okay for a while, but now, I feel like I just can’t take the monotony anymore. I have to get out of here! I have to get out of this office, this city, this country! To be completely honest, I’m just waiting for the perfect opportunity to leave. I want to leave everything behind and explore new places and things. I don’t know where that is, and yes, there’s the fear of uncertainty, but that’s what makes it even more exciting. And that’s what I badly need in my life right now. I miss that feeling. Somehow, the excitement of life just got lost in the daily grind. But I need to get it back! There’s this glowing light inside me, motivating me to LIVE life to the fullest. But how can I do that in a place where I’m not even happy anymore? I want to truly LIVE life, I want to truly experience it, and not just be contented in merely existing.

I look at other people and I see that their lives have some form of direction, and then I look at myself, and I realize, I don’t really know what I want! All I have are theories and abstracts that I don’t know how to bring to fruition. I don’t even know where to start! Should I quit my job, even though I don’t have other opportunities lined up? Do I just get up and leave, adopt the motto, “Come what may” and plunge into the unknown? A part of me is seeking some form of security, of course, but another part of me wants to experience the thrill of the unknown. Through the uncertainties and questions, one thing is clear to me. I don’t want another year to go by with me still stuck in this rut. I haven’t done anything worthwhile, haven’t experienced anything that I can say I really enjoyed…I have to get a move on!

But still the question stands, what should I do with my life? Honestly, I don’t know what I should do at this point. I’m so confused and restless, I have to do something, ANYTHING, soon. I don’t want to reach a point where I’ll regret not having lived a good life, and worst of all, it’s going to be too late to do something about it.

Are you living your life, or are you merely existing?

Copyright©2008angel

(I found this one in the Internet, and I loved the message, that’s why I’m sharing it with you guys… hope you get something out of it.)

Pain was not part of God’s original design. Love, on the other hand, was, and God knew that in order for love to exist, free will would also have to exist. In a world where He gave humans the choice to love or hate, He knew some would choose the latter and PAIN would inevitably be the price.

Yet pain breaks God’s heart, and so God has taken man’s misuse and abuse of free will and redeemed it. God isn’t about righting all the wrongs on Earth. But, He is big on taking the wrongs and making something beautiful of them. And so He constantly offers opportunities for His children to exercise that free will in love towards one another, so that some of what has been broken can be remade. Pain offers opportunity for growth in love.

Also, pain is a unique opportunity for humanity to choose whether it will love God for who He is, rather than for the gifts that He bestows upon His creation. Granted, God loves to give to His children. But in a life void of suffering, there would also be little need to love God for any reason beyond his role as Santa Claus. God wants to be loved for who He is — for His mercy, grace, kindness, compassion, and other attributes — and not because He makes life easy for us.

Finally, God allows pain to remind us that our home is not in this world, that our real life begins in the afterlife, in Heaven. He wishes for us to long for that place. And pain has a way of keeping our hope there, rather than on Earth. This is a good thing, for Heaven promises more wonderful, beautiful things than those which are found here. Earth is for deciding whether we will love one another as well as our Creator; Heaven is where our experience of life will find its fruition.

(excerpt from article by Connie Strasheim -700Club)

Are you single and tired of being alone? You have a desire in your heart to meet someone who you can share your life with, who you can love and who will love you back, but somehow, that person hasn’t arrived yet and you’re wondering… will the time ever come?

It’s a big and complicated world out there, and people have a hard time finding each other. Yeah, you probably look around and see couples around you, and you think why can’t I be like them? Why can’t I find a partner like they have? And you turn to God, asking why He hasn’t given you what He had given everyone else… a perfect match. There’s an unmistakable longing in your heart to fall in love and be happy. But the perfect guy or girl just hasn’t come yet!

It’s hard, and frustrating… but you know what, when you ask God all these questions, like “WHY?” or “WHEN?”, don’t think He doesn’t hear you because He DOES. You say, “But I’ve been praying for this my whole life, and yet I still haven’t found the one.” And you become impatient and even more lonely… But always remember that God has His own perfect timing. He hears what is in your heart, your desires and your prayers, and He will give what you want in His OWN TIME. He knows EXACTLY what you need at a certain point in your life, and He also knows when to give you the things that you’re asking for. All you have to do is to continue TRUSTING and wait patiently for that time. It’s definitely easier said than done, but have FAITH. God promised to bring you love, and HE will fulfill it when the right time comes.

God knows everything, He knows the person that’s meant entirely for us, where that person is, what that person is going through, and one day, He will bring that person to our lives, He will take that person by the hand and lead them to us, so we can experience true love. We just have to BELIEVE.

There’s this song that’s just so inspiring and speaks about God bringing two people together, it’s entitled “He Brought Me To You”. The lyrics and words are beautiful and the song relays a wonderful message about God bringing love into our lives. If you’ve been waiting for so long and you’re losing hope and thinking of giving up… think again. Just hang in there. God will bring you love, He will bring you to the person meant for you, when the RIGHT time comes.

Have you found the one meant for you?

Copyright©2008angel

“Can’t we start over again?”

Have you experienced saying these words to someone you love? It’s hard to say goodbye to the one we love. So we do all we can to save our relationships when it’s on the verge of breaking up. It doesn’t hurt so much to the one leaving, but to the one left behind, it’s painful. That’s why we do whatever we can to hold on, to work things out, to make everything right again.

In relationships, there will always be problems and hardships that couples have to experience in order to grow and test their love for each other. And when these problems occur, there’s always the risk of the relationship not being able to pull through, that’s why it results in a breakup. But there are relationships that are resilient and are able to recover from the blow, and as a result, the couple’s love for each other becomes stronger than ever. This takes a lot of effort and commitment on both parties to decide to work things out.

Petty fights and little misunderstandings are part of a normal relationship. But when big problems occur, like cheating, lying big time, family issues, etc., these are capable of ruining the relationship altogether. And after some time, taking into consideration all the hurt and pain that the problem caused, the couple can either decide to start over again or breakup for good.

In the case of a man wanting to leave because he’s had enough or no longer wants to be in the relationship, and the woman is still very much in love and refuses to accept the man’s decision, then she can probably ask for another chance, or ask if they can start all over again. But she has to be ready for the answer. This can work in some cases, but when the mind’s made up and the relationship is beyond repair, there’s no turning back.

Relationships are complicated in the sense that sometimes, it’s not always black and white. Feelings change, situations change, and most importantly, people change. Problems are just precursors, but ultimately, we are the ones who decide. It’s okay to ask for another chance, but after all is said and done, we have to respect our partner’s decision. Because we can’t force someone to feel a certain feeling just because we want them to. We have to be ready to hear the truth and accept it, no matter how difficult. Keep this in mind, the next time you find yourself asking, “Can’t We Start Over Again?”

Will you still hold on when he says “enough”?

Copyright©2008angel

When I look at myself in the mirror, I see an imperfect person. Just trying to fit in… trying to do my best in this crazy world. Sometimes it’s hard when I see people around me and I get discouraged, but one thing I constantly remind myself, is never to let them destroy my faith and beliefs. Because these are the things that make me the person that I am. I refuse to let other people get me down. The world may have so much evil in it, but it’s also full of good… of love and hope. And that’s what I want to incorporate into my own world. Someday, I’d like to look at myself in the mirror, and what I’d want to feel is contentment. More than anything else, I’d like to look at myself and be satisfied about how I lived my life. When all else is said and done, I’d like to be able to smile and say to myself, I did my best.

Copyright©2008angel

Nowadays, we can’t afford to get sick anymore. With high prices of medicine and hospitalization bills, getting seriously sick is a huge blow, not just to our bodies but to our pockets as well. Proper diet, a healthy lifestyle, plus taking multivitamins can only do so much. We can never really predict when sickness will occur, or when we will be struck by virus or bacteria. It always helps to be financially prepared. That’s why health insurance is so vital these days. Investing in one will allow you to rest easy knowing that in case of a health emergency, you’ll be sure that you’re going to be well taken care of. Life is worth living so we should learn to value our health. What do you say?

I love to eat. I can’t help but think that there are just so many delicious foods out there that are waiting to be tasted and eaten. But one thing I hate is the fact that I can’t eat as much as I want because my metabolism is slow and if I don’t watch what I eat, I could get fat easily. Add that to my fairly sedentary lifestyle, and you could say I’m really prone to being overweight. Thankfully, I can be determined when I want to, so I can pretty much maintain my normal weight. But I do wish I have something that will allow me to eat anything I want, whenever I want, and in whatever quantity I want it. I wish there was a fat burner that could speed up my metabolism a little bit. A friend of mine recommended Slimquick, which she got from the Internet. It’s a diet pill that is supposed to be specifically for females. I don’t know, though. I’m quite hesitant, what do you think? Do you think it’s worth a try?

Forgive and forget… this is a popular line used by lots of people especially when giving advice, but it’s not one that is easily followed.

Forgiving someone who has done something hurtful and bad to us is not easy. But it usually can be done, though it may require some time. Even though we’ve forgiven someone for the wrong they’ve done, we can never really forget, at least not completely. Our mind can be sharp when it comes to these things. Especially if someone has hurt us BIG time. We can never really forget the pain and the fact that it has happened to us.

What’s the difference between forgiving and forgetting, anyway? If you’ve forgiven someone, doesn’t it automatically mean that you’re willing to forget everything that happened? What does forgiveness entail? Forgiveness is a process and it may take a long time, some even take forever before the resentment and the anger subsides. Forgiveness means that you choose not to punish that person because of what that person has done to you. But giving forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to forget.

It’s not a matter of holding a grudge, it’s just that once the damage has been done, it can never be undone. It can be improved and healed, yes, but it can never be undone. In other words, you can forgive the person, but you can’t forget what they did. It will stay with you forever, but what changes is how you deal with your emotions. Over time, the pain, disappointment and anger may diminish. It will come to a point wherein it becomes just a distant thought with no more emotional impact. Nevertheless, it will enter your mind… someday, you’ll look back… especially during the times in your life when you’re forced to recall it. But then you’re in control. Because it doesn’t affect you like it used to. And this is when you can say that you’re stronger, because of what you’ve been through and because of what you had to endure.

That’s why I can say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with remembering. “Forgive, but never forget“. Now, that’s more like it. Wouldn’t you agree?

Do you find it easy to forgive?

Copyright©2008angel

Nowadays, the world has become so advanced in technology… we have cellphones, Internet, e-mails, chat… so many technological inventions are being made. Don’t get me wrong, these are great things and they bring so much convenience to us, but apart from the wonderful benefits that we get from these technological advances, there are certain disadvantages as well. Like for instance, cellphones can be great tools of communication with our loved ones, right? That’s a good thing. But they can also be used for “not-so-wonderful acts” like cheating.

I know a lot of people who are victims of this. A friend of mine cried when she found in her boyfriend’s cellphone a text message from a girl saying “I love you”. She found lots of sweet messages in the guy’s inbox and that’s where she knew that he’s been cheating on her the whole time. Another friend of mine is complaining that when she’s with her man, she gets frustrated because he’s always on his mobile phone, texting… and when she asks who it is he’s talking to, he becomes evasive. Also, he gets furious when she wants to see his cellphone and he gives her a hard time about it, saying that he needs his privacy. Yet another friend of mine found out that her long time boyfriend was cheating on her when she browsed through his chat archives. Yeah… OUCH, right? If this has happened to you too, you’d know how much it hurts.

The thing is, technology has now become another “creative” means to flirt with other people or start and nurture an affair. Many people admit to using technology to fool around and become unfaithful. In other words, it definitely makes cheating a lot easier. With this reality, how are we supposed to trust each other anymore? It’s sad because this trend is becoming predominant in our society today. It’s scary, really.

Especially when you think you know somebody so well, and you trust that person completely, just to discover him flirting with someone else in the chat room or through text messaging. See, even to the most faithful person, the ease of communication that technology brings can be a real temptation. Anyway, who would know right? Chatting is so easy, you can just flirt away when your partner is not around. Or texting can be done anytime anywhere, right? It’s a very tempting thing to do with someone, especially one that you’re strongly attracted to. And it can be instrumental in the conception of an affair that is capable of ruining most relationships.

I guess no matter what we do, we can’t ever really put a stop to this trend. It will always be present, and the only thing we can really do is be careful and just be a wonderful partner to the person in our life. If he cheats, then it’s his conscience that’s on the line, not yours.

Life and love is complicated, and we can never really explain it’s every intricacy. Life can be unfair too, so it’s up to us how we use every situation to our advantage. Technology can make cheating easier, but we all still have a choice. It all comes down to whether or not we will allow a certain device to ruin our principles, and yes, our lives too. It all comes down to our personal values… are we really inherently unfaithful? Or are we just turning to these technologies to make our lives a lot more exciting? If you’re tempted to cheat, will you give in, or will you try to resist? We all have a choice.

Have you ever been tempted to cheat using technology?

Copyright©2008angel

It’s amazing how wrong you can be about a person. You think you already know them so well, but you’ll just be surprised one day when they suddenly show certain qualities that you never even thought they had.

I learned this the hard way recently with someone important in my life. After years of knowing this person, I thought I already know him. I thought I knew his quirks, his whole personality. But boy, was I wrong. I didn’t even see it coming. To be honest, I have such a hard time dealing with this newly revealed side of his personality, we clashed… I thought I could find a way to adjust to this side of him, but it’s just so hard. I tried, believe me…. it’s definitely not for lack of trying. But no matter what I do, I couldn’t penetrate his defenses.

Although I didn’t see him less of a person because of what I discovered about him, things changed between us. It caused problems in our interactions. It became difficult to talk to him and we’re always fighting because of it. Many times I’m tempted to just give up, to just let him be, instead of trying to fix things, because I’m so fed up with his attitude towards me. But I’m still extending my patience… after all, we shared really good times together and he has become a huge part of my life.

Experiencing this in my life now, I realized that you can never really know a person well enough. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve known them a long time… for a year, 5 years, 10 years or more; even though you’ve known someone your whole life, always expect to be surprised when certain parts of their personality (that you didn’t know before) will be revealed to you. That’s why it’s important to continue getting to know a person even though you think you’ve already got him figured out. Create activities together which would allow you to get to know him more deeply.

Being with someone is a journey and a discovery each and every day. Even couples who have been together for so long can discover new things about each other. You will either be pleasantly surprised or you’ll be hopelessly frustrated. So brace yourself for it.

How well do you think you know your partner?

Copyright©2008angel

“I hurt her last night. I didn’t mean to, but I was just so angry, I said some awful things to her. She was crying, but I couldn’t stop. I love her, but I hurt her. And now I feel terrible, I don’t know if she’s ever going to talk to me again after what happened. Argh, I hate myself, why did I have to do that to her? I’m bringing her favorite flowers, I hope she forgives me.”

I’ve learned through experience that relationships are hard work. You guys are probably gonna agree with me, that most of the time, the people that we hurt, are the ones we love. Why do we always hurt the ones we love anyway? It doesn’t make much sense, does it? If we love a person, if we really, truly love a person, do we want them to get hurt? Of course, naturally, the answer would be NO, right? But most of the time, it’s the people we love that we hurt the most, though unintentionally. Sometimes, we’re not even aware of it.

Saying sorry for some is easy, but there are people who really find it hard to admit they’re wrong, and ask forgiveness. Sometimes, you don’t even have to be right to say sorry. No matter whose fault it is, just the fact that your loved one was hurt by something you did or said, even though you didn’t mean it, even though you think they’re being unreasonable, should be enough to get you to say sorry… sorry because they’re hurt, sorry because you care about their feelings. Saying sorry is such a humbling act, but it doesn’t make you less of a person. Pride is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Wanting to be the one who’s right all the time, not admitting when wrong, refusing to take into consideration the feelings of others, are all symptoms of pride. It can literally destroy relationships if we’re not careful.

It may be hard at times to say sorry, but it’s always worth it. It can save our relationships, and it can even strengthen our connections. Saying sorry doesn’t always have to be, “I admit I was wrong.” It can also be, “I don’t care who’s right, I hurt you, and I’m sorry.” A simple sorry can ease someone’s pain, and being able to say you’re sorry, is a true test of strength and love. So don’t be afraid to say sorry to someone you’ve hurt… say it now, before it’s too late.

Is it hard for you to say sorry?

Copyright©2008angel

I’ve always wanted to have a business of my own. I’m thinking it should be along the lines of food, pets, technology, or beauty related. The more I think about it though, the more I’m leaning towards buying a food franchise. Since I’ve never had any experience with running a business, I turned to the Internet for help on how to go about it. I thought if I could find a small business for sale, it would be easier for me. I came across this website which provides small business opportunities to people. It helps entrepreneur wannabes, like me, find and start a business of our choice! They have lots of businesses available in a variety of fields, like food, automotive, health care, pets, mobile, and a lot more. It’s easy, quick and safe. If you want to start a small business of your own, check out their website. As for me, I’m still looking, and eventually, I’m bound to find one that will suit me.