Are you single and tired of being alone? You have a desire in your heart to meet someone who you can share your life with, who you can love and who will love you back, but somehow, that person hasn’t arrived yet and you’re wondering… will the time ever come?

It’s a big and complicated world out there, and people have a hard time finding each other. Yeah, you probably look around and see couples around you, and you think why can’t I be like them? Why can’t I find a partner like they have? And you turn to God, asking why He hasn’t given you what He had given everyone else… a perfect match. There’s an unmistakable longing in your heart to fall in love and be happy. But the perfect guy or girl just hasn’t come yet!

It’s hard, and frustrating… but you know what, when you ask God all these questions, like “WHY?” or “WHEN?”, don’t think He doesn’t hear you because He DOES. You say, “But I’ve been praying for this my whole life, and yet I still haven’t found the one.” And you become impatient and even more lonely… But always remember that God has His own perfect timing. He hears what is in your heart, your desires and your prayers, and He will give what you want in His OWN TIME. He knows EXACTLY what you need at a certain point in your life, and He also knows when to give you the things that you’re asking for. All you have to do is to continue TRUSTING and wait patiently for that time. It’s definitely easier said than done, but have FAITH. God promised to bring you love, and HE will fulfill it when the right time comes.

God knows everything, He knows the person that’s meant entirely for us, where that person is, what that person is going through, and one day, He will bring that person to our lives, He will take that person by the hand and lead them to us, so we can experience true love. We just have to BELIEVE.

There’s this song that’s just so inspiring and speaks about God bringing two people together, it’s entitled “He Brought Me To You”. The lyrics and words are beautiful and the song relays a wonderful message about God bringing love into our lives. If you’ve been waiting for so long and you’re losing hope and thinking of giving up… think again. Just hang in there. God will bring you love, He will bring you to the person meant for you, when the RIGHT time comes.

Have you found the one meant for you?

Copyright©2008angel

“Can’t we start over again?”

Have you experienced saying these words to someone you love? It’s hard to say goodbye to the one we love. So we do all we can to save our relationships when it’s on the verge of breaking up. It doesn’t hurt so much to the one leaving, but to the one left behind, it’s painful. That’s why we do whatever we can to hold on, to work things out, to make everything right again.

In relationships, there will always be problems and hardships that couples have to experience in order to grow and test their love for each other. And when these problems occur, there’s always the risk of the relationship not being able to pull through, that’s why it results in a breakup. But there are relationships that are resilient and are able to recover from the blow, and as a result, the couple’s love for each other becomes stronger than ever. This takes a lot of effort and commitment on both parties to decide to work things out.

Petty fights and little misunderstandings are part of a normal relationship. But when big problems occur, like cheating, lying big time, family issues, etc., these are capable of ruining the relationship altogether. And after some time, taking into consideration all the hurt and pain that the problem caused, the couple can either decide to start over again or breakup for good.

In the case of a man wanting to leave because he’s had enough or no longer wants to be in the relationship, and the woman is still very much in love and refuses to accept the man’s decision, then she can probably ask for another chance, or ask if they can start all over again. But she has to be ready for the answer. This can work in some cases, but when the mind’s made up and the relationship is beyond repair, there’s no turning back.

Relationships are complicated in the sense that sometimes, it’s not always black and white. Feelings change, situations change, and most importantly, people change. Problems are just precursors, but ultimately, we are the ones who decide. It’s okay to ask for another chance, but after all is said and done, we have to respect our partner’s decision. Because we can’t force someone to feel a certain feeling just because we want them to. We have to be ready to hear the truth and accept it, no matter how difficult. Keep this in mind, the next time you find yourself asking, “Can’t We Start Over Again?”

Will you still hold on when he says “enough”?

Copyright©2008angel

I attended a friend’s wedding this weekend and I was pleasantly surprised when my friend (the bride) sang one of my favorite songs ever, Something In Your Eyes, by Dusty Springfield. She cried when she was singing, and I almost cried with her. I love the song so much, that’s why I couldn’t help but become teary-eyed while I was watching her sing the song to her new husband. Theirs is a beautiful love story and I’m so happy she found her perfect match. Check out the lyrics of the song here.

I think Something In Your Eyes is a really beautiful song. It has such a wonderful melody, and the words have so much meaning. I love Dusty’s voice on it too. Try to listen to the message of the song, and I’m sure, if you have experienced love, or know what love is, you’ll appreciate the song. It speaks of love, how after all the waiting and loving, they end up together, forever. Seeing that something in your lover’s eyes, you know where you’re life is leading to… a life with that person. If I were to get married someday to the love of my life, I’ll definitely sing this song to him. What can I say, I’m a hopeless romantic, so just listening to this song, gives me goosebumps.

Seeing my dear friend marry the person she loves and the perfect match for her… it’s a wonderful feeling. I could see the happiness and love in their eyes as they looked at each other. There’s something in their eyes that’s unmistakably real and true. It’s wonderfully amazing to see my friend so radiant and happy on her wedding day. She has been through so much in her life, and she deserves this guy who loves her unconditionally. I’m just so happy for her.

Copyright©2008angel

For me, there’s a distinct way in which a man can make a woman FEEL. Listening to this song and understanding the lyrics, it actually is an accurate description of how love can capture a woman and make her feel all different kinds of emotions from a man. Some may feel that the words are an exaggeration, but that’s what makes it even more meaningful and deep. Think about it, even just a simple touch from a man you love can bring shivers, literally. Right? A simple smile can make the knees go weak. Even when your eyes are closed, he seems to be the only face that keeps popping up.

It’s amazing how a man can cause a variety of feelings in a woman… it’s something that has no comparison really. We can use metaphors to explain them or compare them with other things, but everything is still just shallow representations of what we REALLY feel deep inside. You have to experience it for yourself to know exactly what it’s all about.

I just love the melody of this song and the attempt to explain how a man can make a woman feel. Can you relate to the song?

Copyright©2008angel

Forgive and forget… this is a popular line used by lots of people especially when giving advice, but it’s not one that is easily followed.

Forgiving someone who has done something hurtful and bad to us is not easy. But it usually can be done, though it may require some time. Even though we’ve forgiven someone for the wrong they’ve done, we can never really forget, at least not completely. Our mind can be sharp when it comes to these things. Especially if someone has hurt us BIG time. We can never really forget the pain and the fact that it has happened to us.

What’s the difference between forgiving and forgetting, anyway? If you’ve forgiven someone, doesn’t it automatically mean that you’re willing to forget everything that happened? What does forgiveness entail? Forgiveness is a process and it may take a long time, some even take forever before the resentment and the anger subsides. Forgiveness means that you choose not to punish that person because of what that person has done to you. But giving forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to forget.

It’s not a matter of holding a grudge, it’s just that once the damage has been done, it can never be undone. It can be improved and healed, yes, but it can never be undone. In other words, you can forgive the person, but you can’t forget what they did. It will stay with you forever, but what changes is how you deal with your emotions. Over time, the pain, disappointment and anger may diminish. It will come to a point wherein it becomes just a distant thought with no more emotional impact. Nevertheless, it will enter your mind… someday, you’ll look back… especially during the times in your life when you’re forced to recall it. But then you’re in control. Because it doesn’t affect you like it used to. And this is when you can say that you’re stronger, because of what you’ve been through and because of what you had to endure.

That’s why I can say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with remembering. “Forgive, but never forget“. Now, that’s more like it. Wouldn’t you agree?

Do you find it easy to forgive?

Copyright©2008angel

Nowadays, the world has become so advanced in technology… we have cellphones, Internet, e-mails, chat… so many technological inventions are being made. Don’t get me wrong, these are great things and they bring so much convenience to us, but apart from the wonderful benefits that we get from these technological advances, there are certain disadvantages as well. Like for instance, cellphones can be great tools of communication with our loved ones, right? That’s a good thing. But they can also be used for “not-so-wonderful acts” like cheating.

I know a lot of people who are victims of this. A friend of mine cried when she found in her boyfriend’s cellphone a text message from a girl saying “I love you”. She found lots of sweet messages in the guy’s inbox and that’s where she knew that he’s been cheating on her the whole time. Another friend of mine is complaining that when she’s with her man, she gets frustrated because he’s always on his mobile phone, texting… and when she asks who it is he’s talking to, he becomes evasive. Also, he gets furious when she wants to see his cellphone and he gives her a hard time about it, saying that he needs his privacy. Yet another friend of mine found out that her long time boyfriend was cheating on her when she browsed through his chat archives. Yeah… OUCH, right? If this has happened to you too, you’d know how much it hurts.

The thing is, technology has now become another “creative” means to flirt with other people or start and nurture an affair. Many people admit to using technology to fool around and become unfaithful. In other words, it definitely makes cheating a lot easier. With this reality, how are we supposed to trust each other anymore? It’s sad because this trend is becoming predominant in our society today. It’s scary, really.

Especially when you think you know somebody so well, and you trust that person completely, just to discover him flirting with someone else in the chat room or through text messaging. See, even to the most faithful person, the ease of communication that technology brings can be a real temptation. Anyway, who would know right? Chatting is so easy, you can just flirt away when your partner is not around. Or texting can be done anytime anywhere, right? It’s a very tempting thing to do with someone, especially one that you’re strongly attracted to. And it can be instrumental in the conception of an affair that is capable of ruining most relationships.

I guess no matter what we do, we can’t ever really put a stop to this trend. It will always be present, and the only thing we can really do is be careful and just be a wonderful partner to the person in our life. If he cheats, then it’s his conscience that’s on the line, not yours.

Life and love is complicated, and we can never really explain it’s every intricacy. Life can be unfair too, so it’s up to us how we use every situation to our advantage. Technology can make cheating easier, but we all still have a choice. It all comes down to whether or not we will allow a certain device to ruin our principles, and yes, our lives too. It all comes down to our personal values… are we really inherently unfaithful? Or are we just turning to these technologies to make our lives a lot more exciting? If you’re tempted to cheat, will you give in, or will you try to resist? We all have a choice.

Have you ever been tempted to cheat using technology?

Copyright©2008angel

It’s amazing how wrong you can be about a person. You think you already know them so well, but you’ll just be surprised one day when they suddenly show certain qualities that you never even thought they had.

I learned this the hard way recently with someone important in my life. After years of knowing this person, I thought I already know him. I thought I knew his quirks, his whole personality. But boy, was I wrong. I didn’t even see it coming. To be honest, I have such a hard time dealing with this newly revealed side of his personality, we clashed… I thought I could find a way to adjust to this side of him, but it’s just so hard. I tried, believe me…. it’s definitely not for lack of trying. But no matter what I do, I couldn’t penetrate his defenses.

Although I didn’t see him less of a person because of what I discovered about him, things changed between us. It caused problems in our interactions. It became difficult to talk to him and we’re always fighting because of it. Many times I’m tempted to just give up, to just let him be, instead of trying to fix things, because I’m so fed up with his attitude towards me. But I’m still extending my patience… after all, we shared really good times together and he has become a huge part of my life.

Experiencing this in my life now, I realized that you can never really know a person well enough. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve known them a long time… for a year, 5 years, 10 years or more; even though you’ve known someone your whole life, always expect to be surprised when certain parts of their personality (that you didn’t know before) will be revealed to you. That’s why it’s important to continue getting to know a person even though you think you’ve already got him figured out. Create activities together which would allow you to get to know him more deeply.

Being with someone is a journey and a discovery each and every day. Even couples who have been together for so long can discover new things about each other. You will either be pleasantly surprised or you’ll be hopelessly frustrated. So brace yourself for it.

How well do you think you know your partner?

Copyright©2008angel

Many of my readers have written to me about forbidden love, and I thought to myself it’s sad that this is a prevailing situation among lovers. It’s hard enough to find someone in this crazy world, but to have that someone belong to someone else, that makes it even more heartbreaking.

“Why would I fall in love with this person when he’s not meant for me after all?” “Why would I cry and long for someone who can never be mine?” This is usually what people in forbidden relationships ask themselves. Unrequited love is hard enough, but what about if the one you love, DOES love you back but then you can never be together because he/she belongs to someone else… now that’s even more painful.

Some people continue living their lives just loving this one person even though they know there’s not a chance on earth that they’ll live happily ever after. But what are you supposed to do when you’re in love with someone who can never be yours? Just forget all about what you feel and move on? It’s easier said than done, obviously, but then what other choice do you have?

Forbidden love is wrong in the eyes of the world and of course, the Church. But is it wrong to love? Or it only becomes wrong when you hurt someone because of it? Can you really control your feelings for someone? Maybe your mind can override your heart and then you can force yourself to do what’s right, but can it really make the feelings of love go away? Maybe in time, yes… maybe in some way, but it’s not going to be easy and it will hurt like hell.

Sometimes, there are people involved in forbidden love who can fight for their feelings. They can choose to end their relationships with their current partners and be with another person. But most people are not able to fight for their love. And this is something that they both have to live with for the rest of their lives. There are so many factors involved, it’s not always a “you and me against the world” type of attitude. The reality of life is far different from the world of dreams or fantasies, after all.

So it all comes down to this: do you pursue a forbidden relationship, or walk away from it? Will you go through with it even though it’s wrong, or will you do the right thing and sacrifice your feelings? Either way, forbidden love is painful. And so many people are victims of this. If only we can be with the person we love and who loves us back, the world would be a safer place and there will be less heartaches. But it’s not as easy as we would want it to be, and I guess we all just have to live with these realities.

What’s your stand on forbidden love?

Copyright©2008angel

I love movies, and I’m always on the lookout for good films, those that are not only entertaining but have substance as well. I love movies that make me think, those that leave something for the mind to ponder on. I also love movies that have a romantic feel to it, not necessarily movies about love, but has accents of love that go straight to the heart and ring with truth… because they make me think about life in general. I’m a romantic comedy type of girl, but I also love other genres, like drama, suspense… a well written plot.

We get quotes from movies all the time and we even use some of them in our own lives… here are a few love quotes from romantic movies:

City Of Angels
I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it. One.

When Harry Met Sally
I love that after I spend day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Alex and Emma
Some things are not meant to last, they just take a place in your heart and make you smarter the next time.

Runaway Bride
I guarantee that we’ll have tough times, and I guarantee that at some point one or both of us will want to get out. But I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life cause I know in my heart you’re the only one for me.

The Hot Chick
You are the only person that can make my heart beat faster and slower at the same time.

The Princess Bride
Death cannot stop true love; it can only delay it for a little while.

Moulin Rouge
The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

My Best Friend’s Wedding
If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just… passes you by.

Fried Green Tomatoes
I wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have.

Good Will Hunting
Sometimes I wish I had never met you. Because then I could go to sleep at night not knowing there was someone like you out there.

Forces of Nature
I always thought that there was this one perfect person for everybody in the world, you know, and when you found that person the rest of the world kind of magically faded away, and, you know, the two of you would just be inside this kind of protective bubble, but there is no bubble, I mean if there is you have to make it, I just think life is more than a series of moments, you know, we can make choices, and we can choose to protect the people we love, and that’s what makes us who we are and those are the real memories.

What’s your favorite movie love quote?

What about those people who wake up one day just to realize that they’re no longer in love with the one they’re with. Have you ever experienced this? You found someone, you fell head over heels in love, and then one day, you’ll just realize the feeling isn’t there anymore. What’s up with that?

Is love really fleeting? Is it an emotion that is there for some time and then just disappears at a certain time? Or maybe it isn’t love at all to begin with? Why are there so many broken hearts and so many love lost… if it’s true love, does it really have to end?

In all honesty, I don’t have the answers to any of these questions. I guess no one can really know the answer for sure. After all, we’re all just human beings in search of true love, in search of that one person who will love us and grow old with us… that one person that God intends to be our perfect match. But most people never find their perfect match in their lifetime. It’s all just a string of painful broken hearts consisting of a bucketful of tears and an endless cycle of loving and getting hurt.

Just like in Natalie Cole’s song “Someone That I Used To Love“, the lyrics goes like this, “Wish it was enough for you, all the love I have to give… I did my best to keep you satisfied. I guess you’ll never know how much I tried, I really tried. Once I had so much to give, but you just refused my love. Though you’re someone in this world that I’ll always choose to love. From now on, you’re only someone that I used to love.”

When we love, it always entails taking some kind of risk. We risk getting hurt, we risk our happiness, our hearts, emotions… and then when it doesn’t work out, we grieve over it and then get up and try again. But do we ever really lose that feeling we once had for someone that we loved so much? Or is it simply a change of heart? Maybe we lose the attraction, that’s why we think that the love is no longer there anymore. But regardless of the reason, there’s always the risk of losing the powerful feelings that we once felt for a person after some time. And when that happens, we deal with it the best way we know how, and then move on. Some people go away, some people stay.

My belief is that, when you really truly loved a person (and I’m not talking about just being attracted to the person), even though your relationship didn’t work out, a part of you will always love that person, no matter what. Maybe the intensity will dissipate overtime, but nevertheless, it’s still there. Maybe buried deep inside, but still there. Maybe it transferred or switched to some other level, but the love is still there. Because true love never really dies.

What is true love for you?

Copyright©2008angel

“I hurt her last night. I didn’t mean to, but I was just so angry, I said some awful things to her. She was crying, but I couldn’t stop. I love her, but I hurt her. And now I feel terrible, I don’t know if she’s ever going to talk to me again after what happened. Argh, I hate myself, why did I have to do that to her? I’m bringing her favorite flowers, I hope she forgives me.”

I’ve learned through experience that relationships are hard work. You guys are probably gonna agree with me, that most of the time, the people that we hurt, are the ones we love. Why do we always hurt the ones we love anyway? It doesn’t make much sense, does it? If we love a person, if we really, truly love a person, do we want them to get hurt? Of course, naturally, the answer would be NO, right? But most of the time, it’s the people we love that we hurt the most, though unintentionally. Sometimes, we’re not even aware of it.

Saying sorry for some is easy, but there are people who really find it hard to admit they’re wrong, and ask forgiveness. Sometimes, you don’t even have to be right to say sorry. No matter whose fault it is, just the fact that your loved one was hurt by something you did or said, even though you didn’t mean it, even though you think they’re being unreasonable, should be enough to get you to say sorry… sorry because they’re hurt, sorry because you care about their feelings. Saying sorry is such a humbling act, but it doesn’t make you less of a person. Pride is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Wanting to be the one who’s right all the time, not admitting when wrong, refusing to take into consideration the feelings of others, are all symptoms of pride. It can literally destroy relationships if we’re not careful.

It may be hard at times to say sorry, but it’s always worth it. It can save our relationships, and it can even strengthen our connections. Saying sorry doesn’t always have to be, “I admit I was wrong.” It can also be, “I don’t care who’s right, I hurt you, and I’m sorry.” A simple sorry can ease someone’s pain, and being able to say you’re sorry, is a true test of strength and love. So don’t be afraid to say sorry to someone you’ve hurt… say it now, before it’s too late.

Is it hard for you to say sorry?

Copyright©2008angel