To my Father, Brother, Best Friend, and Savior…

I’m taking this chance to thank you for everything you’ve done for me. No words can describe how grateful I am that you’re with me. All through my life, you never left my side, through the good times and the bad. I’ve been through so much, been through a lot of hurt and miserable moments, and through all that, you’ve helped me overcome my fears, my doubts, my weaknesses. I never could have done it without you. You helped me realize my worth, you made me feel that I am loved, no matter what.

Thank you so much… there have been times when I thought I couldn’t take the pain anymore, there were times when I felt I could no longer stand the loneliness, but you were there to comfort me and tell me that everything is going to be all right. Through wonderful people and things, you reached out to me and reminded me that life goes on. Because of you, I saw that life is worth living, that there’s still so much in store for me, that I shouldn’t waste my life in unimportant things. You taught me how to TRUST, and you strengthened my FAITH. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. I did it because you were there… you held my hand… and that was all I needed.

I’m so BLESSED to have you. Thank you for protecting my heart, I feel so at peace when I know that you’re in control. I don’t ever wanna be without you. Thank you for using me for your glory. I love you so much.

With all my heart,
Angel

I thought you said it would be you and me forever… I thought you said you’d never leave… You said you’d never stop loving me, and I believed you. But then one day, you walked away… I don’t know what went wrong… I wanted to stop you, but I wasn’t sure I could… or if I even should…

There have been times in the past when you walked away from me but you always came back… But now it’s different… I have this hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach, that this time, you’ll be gone for good… And it hurts… To watch the man I love leaving… To watch my baby walk away from me… But I know you had to…

When you walked away… I felt no bitterness or regret as I slowly watched your back disappear from view… What I felt was bittersweet longing of a love that once was, but never will be again… And now you’re gone to a place where I couldn’t be with you… Where all our memories will, from now on, only be from a distant past… You don’t need me anymore… So I’m letting you go, and I’ll send all my love with you…

Copyright©2008angel

“When these days are gone, when the love you once feel for me slowly fades away, when your smile and laugh is only here as a dream, and when the words ‘I love you’ are scripts of the past, I’ll always have the memories that were once moments, and I’ll always know that no matter what, I got the chance to love you the best way I can.”

You made a mistake, and it hurts, but I’ve already forgiven you. During those days when we weren’t talking, I was able to do some self reflection, and I did a lot of thinking… and I realized that I’ve become too emotionally dependent on you and I know that it’s not fair. I guess I was just so happy with you, that I didn’t realize we both need to grow too. I thought I couldn’t live without you, but I realize now that I don’t really need a man to complete me. You broke my heart, and I became stronger because of it. I rediscovered my self worth, and that’s what I need to remember and keep reminding myself about, so that I can start picking up the pieces and start a new life for myself… without you.

Copyright©2008angel

I have this wonderful, sweet reader who emailed and shared her problem with me. I was really touched with her story, her sincerity and her personality. I’d like to share an excerpt of the email I sent back to her in reply:

You’ve been through a lot, haven’t you? You feel you’re stuck in a life that you don’t want to be living. But I’m proud of you for having the strength to go on despite these problems! Sometimes life can throw us curve balls that are big enough to flatten us. But you know what, these problems are only as big and as powerful as we allow them to be. It’s the way we handle them and the decisions that we make that really matters.

Love is complicated, and it always will be. Marriage is complicated too. I wouldn’t really know anything about marriage, since I’m still single. But I do know that it’s not something any of us should enter lightly. There are those who just SETTLE, even though their hearts are really not in it. This is probably one of the biggest regrets we can ever make in our lives, the fact that we just SETTLED.

You weren’t really “in love” with the person, but you married him anyway. And then you meet this “exciting” guy, you feel attracted to him, and you fall in love with him. You saw and felt something with this guy that you haven’t felt in your marriage, thus, the magnetic pull and attraction that you can’t resist. You’re not alone in this, many women experience this type of situation too. And other people can’t judge you because that’s your life.

So you don’t love your husband, and you want to end the marriage, but you’re still having second thoughts? I think you need time to reflect. Know what it is that you really want, and ask yourself if you have the strength to achieve it. Don’t make hasty decisions based on what you’re feeling at the moment. Really look deep inside you, let the real YOU come out, and let her tell you what you should do.

I know you’re going through a rough time, and it’s never easy. Advice can be given, but ultimately, it’s your decision.

Copyright©2008angel

I will never forget you. I will look back and I’ll always be thankful that you came into my world. I feel so BLESSED that I was given the chance to love you. You came and brought so much meaning into my life… you brought love and care, and so many wonderful things and for that I will forever be grateful.

But now, that chapter in our lives has come to an end. It hurts, yes… a lot. But I want you to know, I have no regrets whatsoever. I don’t regret knowing you and loving you, because you’re one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. You came and taught me how to love and you showed me what it’s like to be loved in return.

Even though it didn’t work out, I’m glad that once in my life… I met and loved someone like you. You changed my life in the most beautiful way… you gave me one of the happiest, most unforgettable experiences a girl could ever have. I will NEVER be sorry that I fell in love with you. Being sorry for what happened between us would be like denying what I felt about you. And I can’t do that.

You brought so much happiness into my life. And that happiness is worth all the pain that I’m feeling right now. I know that our times together will only be just a memory from now on… but I’ll treasure those memories, hoping that someday, I will be able to look back without bitterness in my heart… I’ll keep those memories with me, because in time, they’ll remind me of a very special person… my first love: YOU.

I know I’m not perfect, and I’ve made my own share of mistakes. I’ve done things I’m not very proud of… and for that, I’m sorry. But if there’s one thing that I’m proud of, it’s the fact that I loved you unconditionally. I would have wanted to fight for you… but I realize now that there really is NO fight. You were supposed to come into my life, and you did. God sent me an angel… He sent YOU… to inspire me to live life to the fullest, and to show me what love’s really like… and now thanks to you, I’m much wiser. And stronger.

Thank you for everything. For all the love we shared and all the priceless moments. I’m letting you go and I hope you’ll find your own happiness. I think I will never really be the same without you, since you’ve already become a huge part of me… but I realize now that you won’t actually be gone completely… because I’ll always have you here with me… in my HEART. I’ll always love you.

Copyright©2008angel

Just to say I love you never seems enough,
I’ve said it so many times
I am afraid you won’t understand,
what I really mean when I say it.
How can so much feeling,
so much adoration possibly fit into
those three little words.
But until I find some other way,
of saying what I feel, then
‘I love you’ will have to do.
So no matter how many times I say it,
never take it lightly, for you are my life,
and my only love.
I love you now more than ever before.

Love Advice For Women #2: WHEN LOVERS DON’T TALK

Hi, I waS just browsing when i accidentally saw your site.. I’ve been hooked for 2 hours already :)…

Well, i’m having a hard time to understand some things lately about my relationship. LAst week, my bf asked me to watch a movie with him with his friends and I said ok.. While waiting to get off from work, I suddenly remembered that one of his co workers might come and so I called him and said if that girl is coming then I won’t go anymore but he can go with them ( perfectly fine really! )… The girl I was talking about was someone who likes him a lot and my bf had used her in making me mad one time which really freaked me out… that time he said he was really sorry. But then, just like other women, i don’t feel comfortable being with people who contributed to our major fight or who had been a part of not so good memories. She just get into my nerves that much, especially when she allows herself to get between us… It’s very intentional.. My bf got mad at me and he said I was making an issue out of nothing. I said, it’s just that I don’t feel comfortable seeing her around and it’s something that he should respect, after all it was him who started it all. Since that time, we haven’t seen each other nor talk over the phone, It’s all text messages and I hate it very much. I broke off with him over text since he doesn’t want to talk personally… but it was just because I was very mad… Now, its like it’s all my fault. I tried reaching him and I asked if he has no plans of talking to me or at least settling this matter, he said it was me who wanted to break up and he was just respecting what I want…

Every time we fight, we really never talk about what had been our problem… When he comes to see me, there’s no room for questioning, for clearing, for compromising.. When he sees me that’s it! We’re ok and it means he is sorry but no definite words.. When I try to talk about it, for the reasons of at least next time it will not happen again or we would try not to do any of it again, he would always say ” DONT START, It ALREADY HAPPENED”….

I feel so bad.. as in so bad.. because he makes me feel it’s all my fault when what he knows doing best is to avoid discussions.. Leaving things at that… I love him much,, but I feel i’m losing my self respect already.

Please help me. Thank you.

Love Advice for women #2:

I can feel your frustration. Men can sometimes be very difficult to understand. i think this is a classic example of a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. I don’t know you, or your boyfriend, but I do know that you’re not the only couple experiencing this kind of problem. Lots and lots of women out there are complaining that their partners don’t seem to understand them, or don’t seem to be sensitive enough to their feelings. I think every woman has experienced this at one time or another. So don’t think you’re alone.

Anyway, with the situation you narrated, I understand your need to be as far away as possible to the people who have been instrumental to your fights with your boyfriend. And I really think that if you explained it to him carefully, your boyfriend should respect that as well. Did you explain to him in a nice way how you felt? Sometimes, it’s all in the “expression”. We want to express our feelings, but we should also think about how the other person will respond to the way we express them. If you were able to explain it nicely, I think there’s no reason why he should get mad at you!

Sometimes, even little things can trigger a fight, even with the best of couples. It’s normal. Two different people are bound to disagree. But if you really love each other, it’s up to you how to find ways of getting around that. Compromise is key. And if you’re boyfriend really loves you, he’ll realize that. And you should help him realize that too.

I can understand how mad you must be because he didn’t respect your feelings… thus, causing you to break up with him. But let me ask you this, do you regret breaking up with him? I can tell that you’re still in love with him, because obviously, you’re still affected with the whole thing.

I know how frustrating it can be to be in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your emotional needs, most especially a relationship that makes you lose self respect. That’s a complete no-no. If you feel that way, it’s time to do some re-evaluating. Are you willing to lose yourself for a guy? If your boyfriend allows that to happen, then he really isn’t worth it!

Of course, in every relationship, healthy communication is essential. You don’t avoid problems, you face them head on! If you don’t discuss the causes of your fights, problems will never be resolved. I know most guys don’t like to “TALK” about stuff, but we have to teach them somehow because it’s really important. The whole purpose of “talking”, is to LEARN. With every fight, with every conflict, the main goal is to learn to understand your partner… to know your partner better so that the next time something like that happens again, you know what to do. You should be growing together, not growing apart!

Your boyfriend should understand this, and you should help him understand it. If he truly loves you, he will be willing enough to make the effort of working out your relationship. If not, then you’re better off without him. Life is too short to waste your time with a person who’s not even willing to meet you halfway.

You’re a woman, and you should realize your self worth. That’s very important. Most often than not, when it comes to love, rules and advices like these are thrown out. But it has to start within you. Nobody can tell you what to do. You have to know it within yourself. If you’re tired of getting stepped on, stand up for yourself. But of course, keep in mind, what’s meant to be, will be. Hope everything goes okay with you!

“I know you’re angry with Me right now.  That’s all right. People have been angry with Me before and will be again.  Being angry is part of being human. My Son got angry, too.  It’s all right to be angry sometimes at injustice, for example, or the lack of charity.

“You probably think I am unjust and uncharitable when an airplane goes down like that. All those people lost. The children gone. It doesn’t seem right; it can’t be loving. You ask, ‘Where was God?’ Why did He allow that to happen?

“I allow it to happen because I allow you freedom. I could have left you on a string and made you dance all day without getting tired. I could have moved your mouth for you and made you sing all night without growing hoarse. I could have pulled a wire that would have let you soar skyward and never fall.

“I could have, but I didn’t because I love you so much. I want you to be free to decide when to dance and sing.  Free to determine when you will come to Me in faith and hope.  Because you are free, some of you choose not to dance or sing. Some of you select hatred over love, revenge over forgiveness, bombs over a helping hand. As you choose, I watch. I do not disappear. I listen to both the songs and the bombs. AND I REMEMBER.

“Where was God?” you wonder…I was there. I whispered in the ear of a little girl, ‘Don’t be afraid, I am with you.’ I held the hand of a business woman as tightly as she clutched mine.  I cradled a pilot against my shoulder as if he were a baby again.

“Amid the paralysing fear, I was there, as I was there with my Son in the garden. Amid the unbearable pain, I was there, as I was with Him as He was whipped. Amid the terrible realisation that life was ending too soon, I was there, with Him as He hung on the cross and asked, like you, ‘My God, why have you forsaken Me?’

“I had not forsaken Him. I did not forsake them. I was there as they fell, and as they rose to eternal joy. I listened to their anger, answered their questions and showed them why they had been created. Not to end that way, but to live with Me forever.

“In an instant, they came into existence. As you did. In an instant, they left this world. As you will. But beyond that last instant, I kept my promise…A little girl dances, a business woman sings, and a pilot keeps his wings forever.”

I love you.
You are mine.
Your name is written upon My heart.
Your prayers are precious to Me.
Your life is in My hands.
I am always with you.
I am nearer to you than your own heart.
I gave my life so that you might live forever with Me.
All I ask in return is your love.
Be My Valentine!
-Jesus

P.S. You are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you.

Just for this morning, I am going to smile whenever I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.

Just for this morning, I will let you wake up softly, all rumpled in your flannel and I will hold you until you are ready.

Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say you’re beautiful.

Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take you to the park to play.

Just for this morning, I am going to eat a huge breakfast , with bacon eggs, toast and waffles, and you don’t have to eat any.

Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how to put that 100 piece puzzle together.

Just for this afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the garden blowing bubbles.

Just for this afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one if he comes by.

Just for this afternoon, I won’t worry about what you are going to be when you grow up or who you might have been before your diagnosis.

Just for this afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies, and I won’t stand over you trying to ‘fix’ things.

Just for this afternoon, I will let you put all kinds of barettes in my hair, and put lipstick on my face, and I will tell you how pretty you have made me look.

Just for this afternoon I will take you to McDonalds and buy us both a Happy meal so you can have both toys.

Just for this evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born, and how much we love you.

Just for this evening, I will let you splash in the bathtub and not get angry when you throw water over your sister’s head.

Just for this evening, I will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch swing and count all the stars.

Just for this evening, I will bring you glasses of water, and snuggle beside you for three hours and miss my favorite show on t.v.

Just for this evening, When I kneel down to pray, I will simply be grateful for all that I have and not ask for anything, except…

Just one more day.

by: Sally Meyer

Trust me when I said I have never met anyone like you. I have been through this before. Having to decide whether I should let go or stay as I am. I have never cared how people will look, how people will think. Because to me YOU are the most important thing that matters now. People can lie, people can try, people can hurt, they can try to imitate me as much as they want, say whatever they want, do whatever they want. I DON’T CARE, because I know that we are different. We are strong. And each time stronger than ever! And my decision? I’m telling the world now… I’M HAPPY LIKE THIS! And I’M HAPPY WITH YOU!!! NO ONE CAN EVER CHANGE THAT EXCEPT US!!! US! To hell with the world I DON’T CARE!!! I AM STAYING WITH YOU TILL THE DAY YOU SAY NO TO ME!!