Comments on: Jealousy: A Relationship Killer? http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/ Listen to your heart... live... love... and be inspired. Mon, 21 May 2012 17:40:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: ebazaar http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1734 ebazaar Sat, 06 Sep 2008 22:12:26 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1734 This article is soooo true. But i think jealousy does not only apply in a love relationship but also in a human to human relationship and you're right, it's mostly due to insecurity and with jealousy ppl will start come out with so many different ways to make themselves feel better even if it means bad stuff... A strong personality and appreciation of our own abilities will help alot to curb this problem. I've been there and been out too. It was worth knowing what it's like and learn from it. <em>ebazaar's last blog post..<a href='http://info-ebazaar.com/loveandlife/love-or-like/' rel="nofollow">Love Or Like?</a></em> This article is soooo true. But i think jealousy does not only apply in a love relationship but also in a human to human relationship and you’re right, it’s mostly due to insecurity and with jealousy ppl will start come out with so many different ways to make themselves feel better even if it means bad stuff… A strong personality and appreciation of our own abilities will help alot to curb this problem. I’ve been there and been out too. It was worth knowing what it’s like and learn from it.

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]]> By: Paulo http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1732 Paulo Sat, 06 Sep 2008 18:17:15 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1732 I lost the love of my life because of jealousy. Actually the first and only love of my life. I'm too insecure about myself and the feeling of "I'm not good enough for her" always got on my nerves. I was always restless as you say and even though I fought with myself to trust her, I never managed to control my nerves and I always let my mouth say something stupid that I knew I was going to regret. :( I was always wondering when it would happen, even though she tried to show me that she fully loved me. I guess I need to learn with my own mistakes now. Unfortunately... The reason why I think I gave so much myself to her is because I moved country to live with her. I'm a person that needs care. I have a great loving family and friends that are always there for me all the time... but, they are in my home country. When the time came that I had to choose between friends and family over career and love I chose to leave my home country and move to where the love of my life was and proceed with my career (gathering useful to joyful). I think I got trapped in the feeling that "if I loose her, I will be here alone in a foreign country". This fear led me to jealousy and the more jealous I was the more I would loose her. It's a cycle and I got trapped in it! Now I have to face the loss and my fear of being alone in a country where I don't belong. To make it worse, we're always bumping into each other. I'm desperately trying to find a solution. Everybody says that time will make it heal. I understand but I find my situation very difficult. I wish I would have enough strength to overcome this whole situation. But right now I feel like I'm loosing this battle... :'( I lost the love of my life because of jealousy. Actually the first and only love of my life. I’m too insecure about myself and the feeling of “I’m not good enough for her” always got on my nerves. I was always restless as you say and even though I fought with myself to trust her, I never managed to control my nerves and I always let my mouth say something stupid that I knew I was going to regret. :( I was always wondering when it would happen, even though she tried to show me that she fully loved me. I guess I need to learn with my own mistakes now. Unfortunately…

The reason why I think I gave so much myself to her is because I moved country to live with her. I’m a person that needs care. I have a great loving family and friends that are always there for me all the time… but, they are in my home country. When the time came that I had to choose between friends and family over career and love I chose to leave my home country and move to where the love of my life was and proceed with my career (gathering useful to joyful).
I think I got trapped in the feeling that “if I loose her, I will be here alone in a foreign country”. This fear led me to jealousy and the more jealous I was the more I would loose her. It’s a cycle and I got trapped in it!

Now I have to face the loss and my fear of being alone in a country where I don’t belong. To make it worse, we’re always bumping into each other.
I’m desperately trying to find a solution. Everybody says that time will make it heal. I understand but I find my situation very difficult.
I wish I would have enough strength to overcome this whole situation. But right now I feel like I’m loosing this battle… :’(

]]> By: Tulip http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1450 Tulip Tue, 02 Sep 2008 18:07:51 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1450 An interesting writeup on jealousy Angel...i agree with your wordings...But, I wonder why it just appears in my head sometimes when my partner is with someone else..i do feel insecure but i try to convince my heart that he will not cheat on me and have faith and trust in him...I cant get rid of all the stupid ramblings in my head....I knw it will destroy a relationship if we're always thinking of things we shouldnt be...alas,I'm in the learning curve of my relationship anyway =)....thanx for the wonderful writeups in your blog. An interesting writeup on jealousy Angel…i agree with your wordings…But, I wonder why it just appears in my head sometimes when my partner is with someone else..i do feel insecure but i try to convince my heart that he will not cheat on me and have faith and trust in him…I cant get rid of all the stupid ramblings in my head….I knw it will destroy a relationship if we’re always thinking of things we shouldnt be…alas,I’m in the learning curve of my relationship anyway =)….thanx for the wonderful writeups in your blog.

]]> By: iceah http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1447 iceah Tue, 02 Sep 2008 17:04:53 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2008/09/02/jealousy-a-relationship-killer/#comment-1447 you have a good insight here c: thanx for the info and surely it would really help me lessen my insecurity and heighten my trust for my hubby as well c: <em>iceah's last blog post..<a href='http://pinay-chicken-heart.blogspot.com/2008/09/new-cuzins-on-mommys-side-c.html' rel="nofollow">New Cuzins On Mommys Side c:</a></em> you have a good insight here c: thanx for the info and surely it would really help me lessen my insecurity and heighten my trust for my hubby as well c:

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