I remember back when I was younger, I dated this cute guy who had just bought his own car and he was really psyched about it. I was psyched too, so he called me one day and asked me if I could come over and see it. I said yes, and when I arrived at his house, he was ready. He took me to the garage, positioned himself beside the car and pulled off the car cover to reveal a fantastic looking Honda. I gasped and told him it was really beautiful. That was before I saw the seat covers. I laughed out loud. It had a Looney Tunes character, and for most guys, that could be embarrassing. But he just shrugged it off, and said that he likes it, and he doesn’t really care. I used to tease him about it, but actually, it was pretty cute. It even made him seem more endearing for not being ashamed to admit that he likes cartoons. Hehe. As for him and me… the two of us didn’t really work out. We just weren’t compatible, but we’re still good friends though. He already has a girlfriend and the cute seat covers are no longer existent. Go figure.

What do men want anyway? I’ve seen lots of beautiful women who are not so lucky when it comes to maintaining relationships. I also know of women who are pros in keeping their men. But what is it that men look for in women? It’s more than just beauty, that’s a fact. A friend of mine said that a girl can be the most beautiful woman in the planet, but if they’re not compatible, the relationship won’t work in the long run. What men want, are women who already have their act together. So I asked my male friends what are some of the qualities that they look for in a woman and they had lots to answer:

• Has a good sense of humor - It’s dull being with a girl who doesn’t know how to laugh. What men want are women who have a good sense of humor. Guys find it attractive when girls can laugh at anything, even themselves. It just shows that she’s comfortable with herself and enjoys the lighter things in life.

• A good conversationalist - Most guys dig smart women. A friend of mine told me that’s one of the top qualities he looks for in a girlfriend, someone who’s smart and intelligent, someone he can have a good conversation with, and who will talk with him about a wide variety of topics. He shared with me an experience he had where he immediately hit it off with a girl who was so interesting to talk to he can’t wait to be with her again. Good conversations are addictive, and if a girl is good at them, that’s lots of brownie points!

• A good listener - Men love good conversationalists, but they also look for women who know how to listen. Men also have a need to share, although not the way women do. They also crave for someone who can listen to their woes, their stories, their opinions, someone who cares and understands. Most guys can’t stand women who talk and talk but don’t have the time to listen. A woman who knows the balance between talking and listening, is a rare find.

• Can hang out with their male buddies - Men love it when their girlfriends can hang out with their male friends. She doesn’t have to be with them all the time, but if she doesn’t mind hanging out with the guys from time to time, he’ll love her more for it. Guys love their circle of friends, so if you can feel comfortable hanging out with them, his friends will love you and your man will be proud.

• Spontaneous - A spontaneous girl is game for anything. She doesn’t have a long list of rules that she has to follow, and she’s not predictable. Guys can sometimes be impulsive, like for instance, they get the urge to do something fun like go out of town for the night, and they call up their girlfriend to come with them. There are girls who will refuse just coz she doesn’t feel like it. Of course, if she has a pressing reason not to go, like if she has exams, that’s understandable. But mainly, guys love it when girls can live spontaneously and can say, “Game!”

• Can control her temper - Fights are unavoidable in relationships, but guys like women who can keep their cool during these tense moments. A friend of mine loves the way his girlfriend handles their fights. When he’s upset, she would merely listen, and will never shout at him. She waits for him to calm down, and then she would say her piece. Shouting matches are never good, so women who can keep their cool and not show that they’re overly upset, are greatly appreciated by men.

These are just a few qualities that my friends shared with me when I asked them what men want in women. Each person is different, and we all have our ideal qualities that we look for in a partner, so men have different wants too. But generally, these qualities are appealing and these are the qualities in women that make men want to keep them in their lives.

What other qualities do you think men want in women?

Copyright©2008angel

What should I do with my life?

Honestly, I really don’t have an answer to this question right now. There are days when I’d just wake up, go through the motions of everyday life, feeling like each day is just the same old boring routine that I have to go through. It’s like I’m on autopilot, just going through the familiar motions, waking up, going to work, spending 8 hours in front of a desk, then going back home to sleep, repeating the whole cycle again the next day. It’s fine, I do get some enjoyment along the way, in the form of friends, family, loved ones, and interesting happenings, but at the end of the day, I still feel like there’s something missing.

It’s like at the back of my mind, I know that there’s still so much out there for me to do. I have this unsettling feeling that keeps nagging me, making me feel like I’m not supposed to be where I am right now, that I should be somewhere else. I feel like I’m merely existing, contented in living the same old boring routine everyday. My inner voice is practically screaming to me, telling me that I should be doing something else with my life, and not waste it behind some desk, doing a boring, mind-dulling job day after day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for my job, it has helped me a lot. But right now, I feel like 3 years is enough, and I have this urge to move on and try something new.

I’ve tried convincing myself, I’ve tried extending my patience, I’ve tried coming up with reasons for me to stay where I am… and I’ve done okay for a while, but now, I feel like I just can’t take the monotony anymore. I have to get out of here! I have to get out of this office, this city, this country! To be completely honest, I’m just waiting for the perfect opportunity to leave. I want to leave everything behind and explore new places and things. I don’t know where that is, and yes, there’s the fear of uncertainty, but that’s what makes it even more exciting. And that’s what I badly need in my life right now. I miss that feeling. Somehow, the excitement of life just got lost in the daily grind. But I need to get it back! There’s this glowing light inside me, motivating me to LIVE life to the fullest. But how can I do that in a place where I’m not even happy anymore? I want to truly LIVE life, I want to truly experience it, and not just be contented in merely existing.

I look at other people and I see that their lives have some form of direction, and then I look at myself, and I realize, I don’t really know what I want! All I have are theories and abstracts that I don’t know how to bring to fruition. I don’t even know where to start! Should I quit my job, even though I don’t have other opportunities lined up? Do I just get up and leave, adopt the motto, “Come what may” and plunge into the unknown? A part of me is seeking some form of security, of course, but another part of me wants to experience the thrill of the unknown. Through the uncertainties and questions, one thing is clear to me. I don’t want another year to go by with me still stuck in this rut. I haven’t done anything worthwhile, haven’t experienced anything that I can say I really enjoyed…I have to get a move on!

But still the question stands, what should I do with my life? Honestly, I don’t know what I should do at this point. I’m so confused and restless, I have to do something, ANYTHING, soon. I don’t want to reach a point where I’ll regret not having lived a good life, and worst of all, it’s going to be too late to do something about it.

Are you living your life, or are you merely existing?

Copyright©2008angel

One of my favorite parts of the house is the bathroom. Why? Well, because it’s a private sanctuary where you can relax and relieve yourself at the same time. That’s why it should be clean and fragrant and should exude a sense of freshness. I love seeing bathrooms that are one of a kind. I’ve seen one before that’s like paradise. When you go inside, you’ll feel like you’re in a tropical island complete with stones on the floor, plants, waterfall in the walls, and the whole room smells like lilies. And their’s was one of the most beautiful toilets I’ve ever seen (or sat on, for that matter). It’s marvelous, I felt like I could stay there and have a nice bubble bath for hours. Haha. Have you ever seen a bathroom so beautiful and different that you can’t forget it?

(I found this one in the Internet, and I loved the message, that’s why I’m sharing it with you guys… hope you get something out of it.)

Pain was not part of God’s original design. Love, on the other hand, was, and God knew that in order for love to exist, free will would also have to exist. In a world where He gave humans the choice to love or hate, He knew some would choose the latter and PAIN would inevitably be the price.

Yet pain breaks God’s heart, and so God has taken man’s misuse and abuse of free will and redeemed it. God isn’t about righting all the wrongs on Earth. But, He is big on taking the wrongs and making something beautiful of them. And so He constantly offers opportunities for His children to exercise that free will in love towards one another, so that some of what has been broken can be remade. Pain offers opportunity for growth in love.

Also, pain is a unique opportunity for humanity to choose whether it will love God for who He is, rather than for the gifts that He bestows upon His creation. Granted, God loves to give to His children. But in a life void of suffering, there would also be little need to love God for any reason beyond his role as Santa Claus. God wants to be loved for who He is — for His mercy, grace, kindness, compassion, and other attributes — and not because He makes life easy for us.

Finally, God allows pain to remind us that our home is not in this world, that our real life begins in the afterlife, in Heaven. He wishes for us to long for that place. And pain has a way of keeping our hope there, rather than on Earth. This is a good thing, for Heaven promises more wonderful, beautiful things than those which are found here. Earth is for deciding whether we will love one another as well as our Creator; Heaven is where our experience of life will find its fruition.

(excerpt from article by Connie Strasheim -700Club)

CHARMED has got to be my favorite TV show of all time! Ever since Day 1, I’ve followed this amazing series, and I have to say, it’s been part of my life since! They’ve been over for years now, but I still can’t get enough of it!

Charmed is a very popular show, but for those of you who are not familiar with it, let me just squeeze in a quick description. The show is about three sisters who are the world’s most powerful good witches, known throughout the supernatural community as “The Charmed Ones” but known to everyone else as the Halliwells. Each sister possesses unique magical powers that grow and evolve over the course of their lives. The Charmed Ones live together in a manor and use their supernatural abilities to battle the warlocks and demons and other evil forces that populate San Francisco, California.

It is such a terrific show. Personally, I’m very much fascinated by magic, and the thought of having special powers just piques my interest to no end. I especially like the fact that the show doesn’t just focus on magic or witchcraft alone, but they also portray the sisters as normal people, with normal lives (except they have to fight demons, which is not THAT normal, hehe). But anyway, I can totally relate! I remember all too well how the show made me laugh and cry, and gave me all these different emotions even from watching just one episode. I would anxiously wait for the next episode every week, and it’s just been part of my weekly routine that when for some reason, I don’t get to watch one episode, I would get really down and pissed off. Hehe.

I guess what I’m really trying to say is… I love, love, love the show! Charmed is a show packed with action, drama, humor, magic, all rolled into one! What more could you ask for, right? But like everything else, all good things must come to an end. The show ended after it’s 8th season in 2006, and needless to say, I’m one of the thousands of people out there who wished Charmed had stayed on forever. But! As I say farewell to Charmed, I’m not completely sad, because I got myself a complete set of Charmed DVD’s from season 1-8! Yay! Now I get to watch my favorite episodes over and over again! Ain’t it grand?!

Copyright©2008angel