Forbidden Love
Many of my readers have written to me about forbidden love, and I thought to myself it’s sad that this is a prevailing situation among lovers. It’s hard enough to find someone in this crazy world, but to have that someone belong to someone else, that makes it even more heartbreaking.
“Why would I fall in love with this person when he’s not meant for me after all?” “Why would I cry and long for someone who can never be mine?” This is usually what people in forbidden relationships ask themselves. Unrequited love is hard enough, but what about if the one you love, DOES love you back but then you can never be together because he/she belongs to someone else… now that’s even more painful.
Some people continue living their lives just loving this one person even though they know there’s not a chance on earth that they’ll live happily ever after. But what are you supposed to do when you’re in love with someone who can never be yours? Just forget all about what you feel and move on? It’s easier said than done, obviously, but then what other choice do you have?
Forbidden love is wrong in the eyes of the world and of course, the Church. But is it wrong to love? Or it only becomes wrong when you hurt someone because of it? Can you really control your feelings for someone? Maybe your mind can override your heart and then you can force yourself to do what’s right, but can it really make the feelings of love go away? Maybe in time, yes… maybe in some way, but it’s not going to be easy and it will hurt like hell.
Sometimes, there are people involved in forbidden love who can fight for their feelings. They can choose to end their relationships with their current partners and be with another person. But most people are not able to fight for their love. And this is something that they both have to live with for the rest of their lives. There are so many factors involved, it’s not always a “you and me against the world” type of attitude. The reality of life is far different from the world of dreams or fantasies, after all.
So it all comes down to this: do you pursue a forbidden relationship, or walk away from it? Will you go through with it even though it’s wrong, or will you do the right thing and sacrifice your feelings? Either way, forbidden love is painful. And so many people are victims of this. If only we can be with the person we love and who loves us back, the world would be a safer place and there will be less heartaches. But it’s not as easy as we would want it to be, and I guess we all just have to live with these realities.
What’s your stand on forbidden love?
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I once read a story that contains a line that I really like. It mentioned something like this — “…the impossibility of exhibiting joy with guilt hanging over one’s head.” (Under Erasure by Francis Paolo M. Quina)
Really true. Can a person truly be happy with someone knowing that the happiness is causing another person, or an entire family at that, a world of heartaches and pain? I guess not. Happiness may come, but every now and then the guilt will eat both people involve until it destroys the relationship.
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I think forbidden love is an impossible love. Impossible love is, when you love somebody and this person is married or this person have a strict relationship. It is very difficult to know that and still love the person further. I have this problem, too, and I know how difficult that is, but I try to forget it. Because I don’t want others suffer because of me. I think that this is creating, even if very difficult. It hurts, but it has no other choice. I think forbidden and impossible love is harder as unrequited love.
ima kinda living in this situation, iam dating a guy, we are in love…. and her mother is making my life a hell =( what should i do??? live the guy??
this is so fuckin true. but forbidden love is not impossible. the commitment is the point. this kind of relationship is painful. i am also in this situation for 2 years. and i decide to give up. just not because i dont love my partner anymore. but i just dont want to get hurt by me and eaten by my thoughts. relationship will never work if you break your partner trust. or you cant give back your trust a good name anymore. thats so fail. better to let go. move on and keep moving on.
this is so fucking sad and what’s more sad is I’m into the said situation. Should I choose to be happy and hurt the people around me? Or should I just choose to be sad to make those people around me happy? So difficult.
It is so sad to love somebody when that somebody isn’t free anymore.Too bad.
That’s so true … I also love someone but I’m not allowed to love him .. My parents told me he’s not for you .. you deserve something better .. and I’m not allowed to be in touch with him anymore .because his family is “not good”.. thats the fucking hardest thing in the world .. when you LOVE each other .. but you’re not allowed to be a couple ..
Forbidden love SUCKS!!
known him for soo long, thu we haven’t met in person..we do had the chance to finally see each other but 2weeks before his marriage! sad isn’t it?? we found out that we clicked, but too late for him to gave up..or maybe im not worthy at all!! i tried to forget him, but months past, he tried to reach me..we see each other and hanged out, i found myself happy for the longest time..but the guilt is killing me..we tried to make conditions, but seemed like we are good when we are together and worst when we are apart! i simply gave up..and now im happy with my decision..so let go of that forbidden love coz it simply won’t do good any longer..but he always have a space in my frail fuckn’ heart
For those who have the courage to let go of a forbidden love, kudos to you! It’s not easy, but that’s the right thing to do. So for those who’ve done it, for those who were brave enough to let go, you should be proud of yourselves. And remember, there is still someone out there who deserves you, who you can call your own.
I’m currently in this kind of situation. It’s really hard to let go of this “Forbidden Love”. I’m stuck into it.! I used to be the “another woman” in the relationship for almost a year now. the challenge is this relationship is really thrilling,you have to hide your affections to other people, pretending that I am a weel mannered woman but deep inside I’m just a mistress!. But I don’t considered my self as a home-wrecker. I accepted the situation that he can’t be mine. I just enjoy the feeling of being love by him. HE MAKES MY DREAMS COME TRUE…! How can I let go of this? If I need him…
if you cant let go of this relationship, then why should you have to hurt yourself in letting go. Just enjoy every single moments of your days together bcoz you know time will come that you will never be with that person anymore in the end. Just always remember that you know where you stand.. never blame anyone when the time comes that he or she must leave because from the very start you know the situation. love is for everyone and love is not selfish..never demand anything to that person bcoz he is not yours… enjoy the gift of love…. there is no forbidden love… it becomes wrong when you are becoming selfish
I’m married and he isn’t, but we are together for almost 6 years now. He loves me and I love him. But, from the beginning we know that love isn’t enough…So, one day I will be the one ho will have to LET HIM GO, and I’m preparing myself for that day with my every breath, because I know that WILL HURT LIKE HEAL…but it isn’t matter…I love him so much…
im one of dem;i really dnt know hw to let go wd some1 i love,i dnt know hw should go on wd my lyf w/out hm at my syd,im in a relationship wd a difficult ctuation im not a family wreakr;i know wr should i belong,but hopng someday i found my destiny
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