“I hurt her last night. I didn’t mean to, but I was just so angry, I said some awful things to her. She was crying, but I couldn’t stop. I love her, but I hurt her. And now I feel terrible, I don’t know if she’s ever going to talk to me again after what happened. Argh, I hate myself, why did I have to do that to her? I’m bringing her favorite flowers, I hope she forgives me.”

I’ve learned through experience that relationships are hard work. You guys are probably gonna agree with me, that most of the time, the people that we hurt, are the ones we love. Why do we always hurt the ones we love anyway? It doesn’t make much sense, does it? If we love a person, if we really, truly love a person, do we want them to get hurt? Of course, naturally, the answer would be NO, right? But most of the time, it’s the people we love that we hurt the most, though unintentionally. Sometimes, we’re not even aware of it.

Saying sorry for some is easy, but there are people who really find it hard to admit they’re wrong, and ask forgiveness. Sometimes, you don’t even have to be right to say sorry. No matter whose fault it is, just the fact that your loved one was hurt by something you did or said, even though you didn’t mean it, even though you think they’re being unreasonable, should be enough to get you to say sorry… sorry because they’re hurt, sorry because you care about their feelings. Saying sorry is such a humbling act, but it doesn’t make you less of a person. Pride is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Wanting to be the one who’s right all the time, not admitting when wrong, refusing to take into consideration the feelings of others, are all symptoms of pride. It can literally destroy relationships if we’re not careful.

It may be hard at times to say sorry, but it’s always worth it. It can save our relationships, and it can even strengthen our connections. Saying sorry doesn’t always have to be, “I admit I was wrong.” It can also be, “I don’t care who’s right, I hurt you, and I’m sorry.” A simple sorry can ease someone’s pain, and being able to say you’re sorry, is a true test of strength and love. So don’t be afraid to say sorry to someone you’ve hurt… say it now, before it’s too late.

Is it hard for you to say sorry?

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