I have this wonderful, sweet reader who emailed and shared her problem with me. I was really touched with her story, her sincerity and her personality. I’d like to share an excerpt of the email I sent back to her in reply:

You’ve been through a lot, haven’t you? You feel you’re stuck in a life that you don’t want to be living. But I’m proud of you for having the strength to go on despite these problems! Sometimes life can throw us curve balls that are big enough to flatten us. But you know what, these problems are only as big and as powerful as we allow them to be. It’s the way we handle them and the decisions that we make that really matters.

Love is complicated, and it always will be. Marriage is complicated too. I wouldn’t really know anything about marriage, since I’m still single. But I do know that it’s not something any of us should enter lightly. There are those who just SETTLE, even though their hearts are really not in it. This is probably one of the biggest regrets we can ever make in our lives, the fact that we just SETTLED.

You weren’t really “in love” with the person, but you married him anyway. And then you meet this “exciting” guy, you feel attracted to him, and you fall in love with him. You saw and felt something with this guy that you haven’t felt in your marriage, thus, the magnetic pull and attraction that you can’t resist. You’re not alone in this, many women experience this type of situation too. And other people can’t judge you because that’s your life.

So you don’t love your husband, and you want to end the marriage, but you’re still having second thoughts? I think you need time to reflect. Know what it is that you really want, and ask yourself if you have the strength to achieve it. Don’t make hasty decisions based on what you’re feeling at the moment. Really look deep inside you, let the real YOU come out, and let her tell you what you should do.

I know you’re going through a rough time, and it’s never easy. Advice can be given, but ultimately, it’s your decision.

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