It’s actually quite sad that I needed to experience a breakup to realize my self worth. You know what they say, “You can’t really love someone else without loving yourself first.” Well, I’ve learned that lesson the hard way.
One of the positive things that resulted from my recent breakup is my new found attitude towards myself. Now, I’m learning to love myself more. I’ve learned how important it is to take care of myself.
The breakup was a tough thing to accept, but I’ve come to terms with it. Slowly, I’m trying to adjust myself to a single life, a life without that person that I’ve been so used to having around. It’s a huge adjustment, especially since my whole world revolved around that person. But I know I have to focus on the good things instead of the bad. Or else I’ll just find myself miserable.
There are a lot of things that I learned actually. I cried, I went through a grieving period, but then one day I just got tired of it, and decided it’s time to move on. From then on, I vowed to focus on myself more. I promised to do things for myself this time… to start doing the things that I’ve always wanted to do but haven’t done because I was tied to a relationship.
For so long, I’ve taken myself for granted. When I was in a relationship, it was always the other person who has to come first. It was my choice really, though I know now what I did was wrong. In whatever decision I made, I had to think about this other person first. He became my priority, and I guess I lost myself along the way.
But now, I’m starting to find myself again. I know it won’t be easy, in fact, I know it’s going to be really hard. But I’m ready for it. I have to be. There’s no other choice.
Have you experienced setting yourself aside for a person you loved?