Giving up someone you love is probably the hardest thing in the world to do… especially if you’ve been together for so long and you’ve shared so much with each other. You’ve opened up yourself to him, gave much of your effort, time, and energy into the relationship, and then in the end, you’ll just have to give him up. All the memories, wonderful moments you’ve had together, plans, and dreams, you just watch them all go down the drain.

You ask yourself, “Why did I have to fall in love this way, just to give it all up in the end?” “Why did I have to love him this much, if we’re not meant to be?” You’re scared to let go because you’re thinking that you may not find anyone else who will love you the same way he did. You’ve developed emotional dependencies on that person and you can’t imagine your life without him. You know that the relationship is going nowhere, but still, you can’t let go. You try to analyze things and try to come up with solutions that might be able to save your relationship. But nothing seems to work!

Letting go of a love that once made you happy is tough. It’s hard when you’ve been so used to having that person around and you don’t know how to go on without his presence in your life. Days seem to drag by, time slows down, and you feel sad and incomplete. But if you know that a relationship is not working anymore and you’ve tried your best and yet it remains beyond repair, accept it, grieve over it, and then move on. Other women feel so helplessly miserable that they have a tendency to fall apart. Overly emotional women are more prone to this. I know of women who think like this. But this isn’t healthy.

Don’t throw your life away for a guy. Remember the “getting over” process is supposed to be hard and the pain won’t go away that easily. Give yourself time to mourn over the loss and time to heal. After you’ve given yourself enough time, it will get better, trust me. Just keep in mind that you are a beautiful person, and you deserve to be loved. If you can’t find that in the person you’re with right now, then that person is not for you. Learn to accept that fact, and learn to let that person go, so you’ll find the right one for you. It all comes down to courage and determination really. If you’re brave enough to let go, and determined enough to find your real happiness, then you’re ready to move on to experience much greater things in your life.

Don’t tie yourself in a relationship that’s as good as finished. Learn to love yourself, because people in your life may come and go, and the only thing that really stays, is yourself. If you don’t love yourself first and foremost, you won’t be able to love another just as effectively. And if you love yourself, you won’t allow yourself to be stuck in an unfulfilled relationship. You know you deserve more, so get out there and find it! You owe it to yourself.

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