Have you ever dated someone and felt very much attracted to him, and then later you found out he was one of the “bad boys”, but you still can’t stop seeing him? Or is there a nice guy in your life that is a real boyfriend material, but you find that you’re just not attracted to him?

Sometimes women have this recurring tendency to pick the “wrong” guys and then go through the tiring process of loving, getting hurt, realizing he’s not the one, breaking up, moving on… then they meet another guy, and goes through the same process again. Have you ever wondered why women often are more attracted to “bad boys” rather than good guys that they can take home to their parents? I’m not saying this is always the case because there are women out there too who are more attracted to nice guys. But just for the sake of discussion, why is it that bad guys are usually more attractive to women than their nicer counterparts? Is it because they have an “element of danger” which women are drawn to? Or maybe women just find that they have a more powerful connection with a “bad boy”? Or perhaps they’re just looking for spontaneity in a relationship, with some playfulness and fun, and they know they can have these with bad boys?

Regardless of what it is that women find in “wrong guys”… I think everyone would blame it on a UNIVERSAL thing called CONNECTION. A magical connection with a man is very powerful and can sometimes even make women do things that they would regret doing in the end. And often, when a woman is hopelessly caught up in this attraction, all reasoning abilities are thrown out the window. There are many books out there that attempts to explain this phenomenon of choosing the wrong guys, but I won’t dwell on it anymore here. I just might get a migraine.

But while we’re on the topic, which type of guy would rather go out with, nice guys or bad boys… share your ideas!

Copyright©2008angel

We all want to be happy. It’s the one fact of life that rings true for everyone, regardless of our background and differences: rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, fat or thin, popular or unknown, we all just want to be happy. Many doors of happiness are opened up to us in the course of our lives. Sometimes, even two doors at once. And as we enter and rejoice in our newfound happiness, we wish the feeling will never end. But like all things in life, happiness lasts too. Sometimes it lasts longer, sometimes it lasts for only a short period of time. And when that door of happiness closes, we are so consumed with all the happy memories and experiences, that we tend to look longingly at the closed door. Instead of moving on, our hearts are stuck. After all, how can you let go of something that made you happy?

One good example: You meet a great guy, and you fall in love. Suddenly, your life changes, you see the world with colors and everything around you seems beautiful.You become so happy and contented. Then one day, he breaks up with you. The door closes and slams itself in your face. But you were so happy! You didn’t want it to end. So you wait outside the door, hoping it will open and let you in once again. You don’t want to leave the comfort and happiness you experienced. So you wait. And while you wait, you can’t see that there’s this new guy waiting for you already. Someone who’s willing to love you and ready to give you a new kind of happiness, even more than what you had before. But because you were looking so long at the closed door, you didn’t notice the other door of happiness opening up to accommodate you. Too bad.

What we don’t know, or rather, what we always forget… is that everything happens for a reason. When one door of happiness closes, another will open. That’s life. We experience happiness, and then we get hurt. And then we learn from it, and move on. Happiness is a fleeting feeling. But really, it’s a choice too. If you want to be happy, you have to choose to find it. Even if it means prying ourselves away from the old and familiar, even if it means dragging ourselves away from the closed door. It’s totally worth it.

Life Quote: “When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.”

Copyright©2008angel

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.

FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.

Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says “I don’t feel like it, I just want you to hold me.” I said “WHAT??!! What was that?!”

So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear… “You’re just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.” She responded to my puzzled look by saying, “Can’t you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?”

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn’t decide which one to take so I told her we’d just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit. We went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you…she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn’t even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, “That’s fine, honey.” She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, “I think this is all dear, let’s go to the cashier.”

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, “No honey, I don’t feel like it.” Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled WHAT?”

I then said “Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You’re just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.” And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, “Why can’t you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?”

Apparently I’m not having sex tonight either.

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Just to say I love you never seems enough,
I’ve said it so many times
I am afraid you won’t understand,
what I really mean when I say it.
How can so much feeling,
so much adoration possibly fit into
those three little words.
But until I find some other way,
of saying what I feel, then
‘I love you’ will have to do.
So no matter how many times I say it,
never take it lightly, for you are my life,
and my only love.
I love you now more than ever before.

I dreamed I had an INTERVIEW WITH GOD.

“So, you would like to interview me?” GOD asked.

“If you have time,” I said.

GOD smile. “My time is eternity… what questions do you have in mind for me?”

“What surprises you the most about humankind?”

GOD answered…

“That they get bored with childhood, that they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.”

“That they lose their health to make money… and then lose their money to restore their health.”

“That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.”

“That they live as if they would never die, and die as though they had never lived.”

GOD’s hand took mine… and we were silent for a while.

And then I asked, “As a parent, what are some of life’s lessons you want your children to learn?”

GOD replied, “To learn they cannot make anyone love them. All they can do is let themselves be loved.”

“To learn that it is not good to compare themselves to others.”

“To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.”

“To learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in those they love, and it can take many years to heal them.”

“To learn that a rich person is not one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.”

“To learn that there are people who love them dearly, but simply do not yet know how to express or show their feelings.”

“To learn that two people can look at the same thing, and see it differently.”

“To learn that it is not enough that they forgive one another, but they must also forgive themselves.”

“Thank you for your time,” I said humbly.

“Is there anything else you would like your children to know?”

GOD smiled, and said… “Just know that I am here.” “Always.”

I walked into the grocery store not particularly interested in buying groceries. I wasn’t hungry. The pain of losing my husband of 37 years was still too raw. And this grocery store held so many sweet memories.

Rudy often came with me and almost every time he’d pretend to go off and look for something special. I knew what he was up to. I’d always spot him walking down the aisle with the three yellow roses in his hands. Rudy knew I loved yellow roses.

With a heart filled with grief, I only wanted to buy my few items and leave, but even grocery shopping was different since Rudy had passed on. Shopping for one took time, a little more thought than it had for two.

Standing by the meat, I searched for the perfect small steak and remembered how Rudy had loved his steak. Suddenly a woman came beside me. She was blond, slim and lovely in a soft green pantsuit. I watched as she picked up a large pack of T-bones, dropped them in her basket, hesitated, and then put them back. She turned to go and once again reached for the pack of steaks.

She saw me watching her and she smiled. “My husband loves T-bones, but honestly, at these prices, I don’t know.” I swallowed the emotion down my throat and met her pale blue eyes. “My husband passed away eight days ago,” I told her. Glancing at the package in her hands, I fought to control the tremble in my voice. “Buy him the steaks. And cherish every moment you have together.” She shook her head and I saw the emotion in her eyes as she placed the package in her basket and wheeled away.

I turned and pushed my cart across the length of the store to the dairy products. There I stood, trying to decide which size milk I should buy. A quart, I finally decided and moved on to the ice cream section near the front of the store. If nothing else, I could always fix myself an ice cream cone. I placed the ice cream in my cart and looked down the aisle toward the front.

I saw first the green suit, then recognized the pretty lady coming towards me. In her arms she carried a package. On her face was the brightest smile I had ever seen. I would swear a soft halo encircled her blonde hair as she kept walking towards me, her eyes holding mine. As she came closer, I saw what she held and tears began misting in my eyes.

“These are for you,” she said and placed three beautiful long stemmed yellow roses in my arms.”When you go through the line, they’ll know these are paid for.” She leaned over and placed a gentle kiss on my cheek, then smiled again.

I wanted to tell her what she’d done, what the roses meant, but still unable to speak, I watched as she walked away, tears clouding my vision. I looked down at the beautiful roses nestled in the green tissue wrapping and found it almost unreal. How did she know? Suddenly the answer seemed so clear. I wasn’t alone.

“Oh, Rudy, you haven’t forgotten me, have you?” I whispered, with tears in my eyes. He was still with me, and she was his angel.

These, right here, are my favorite love songs of all time! Of course, there are lots of other great love songs out there, but I narrowed them down to my top picks. I’ve started compiling this list since I was a kid, and I guess it just stuck with me after all these years. These are, in my opinion, timeless classics and some of the best love songs ever written! So sit back and listen to my ultimate love songs collection… and perhaps you can tell me what you think of them.

The following life quotes are really interesting in the sense that they allow you to ponder on thoughts and reality that haven’t really even occurred to you. Read these life quotes and ponder on what they really mean with regards to LIFE as we all know it.

1. It’s better to declare the truth and be rejected than to withhold it just to be accepted. -Unknown
2. A real leader faces the music even when he doesn’t like the tune. -Nelson Mandela
3. People who drink to drown their sorrows should be told that sorrow knows how to swim. -Woody Allen
4. Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent. -Marilyn Vas Savant
5. People won’t remember what you did. People won’t remember what you said. But, people will remember how you made them feel. -Neale Donald Waisch
6. The real winner in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better. -Barbara Pletcher
7. When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up. -Les Brown
8. It is not what life takes away from you that counts. It’s what you make of what is left with you. -Hubert Humphrey
9. The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time. -Abraham Lincoln
10. Every exit is an entry somewhere else. -Tom Stoppard
11. Don’t complain about growing old - many many people do not have that privilege. -Earl Warren
12. I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief. -Gerry Spence
13. If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere. -Francois De La Rochefoucauld
14. Half our mistakes in life arise from feeling when we ought to think, and thinking when we ought to feel. -John Collins
15. Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living; the other helps you make a life. -Sandra Carey

Some years ago on a hot summer day in south Florida a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming hole behind his house. In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks, and shirt as he went.

He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore. His mother in the house was looking out the window saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, she ran toward the water, yelling to her son as loudly as she could. Hearing her voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his mother. It was too late. Just as he reached her, the alligator reached him. From the dock, the mother grabbed her little boy by the arms just as the alligator snatched his legs. That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two. The alligator was much stronger than the mother, but the mother was much too passionate to let go. A farmer happened to drive by, heard er screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator.

Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived. His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his mother’s fingernails dug into his flesh in her effort to hang on to the son she loved.

The newspaper reporter, who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs. And then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, “But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my Mom wouldn’t let go.”

You and I can identify with that little boy. We have scars, too. Not from an alligator, but the scars of a painful past. Some of those scars are unsightly and have caused us deep regret. But, some wounds, my friend, are because God has refused to let go. In the midst of your struggle. He’s been there holding on to you.

The Scripture teaches that God loves you. You are a child of God. He wants to protect you and provide for you in every way. But sometimes we foolishly wade into dangerous situations, not knowing what lies ahead. The swimming hole of life is filled with peril - and we forget that the enemy is waiting to attack. That’s when the tug-of-war begins - and if you have the scars of His love on your arms be very, very grateful. He did not and will not ever let you go.

Never judge another person’s scars, because you don’t know how they were made.

It always amazes me whenever life spins a big surprise and sends it hurtling towards me when I least expect it. This is what I love to call “Divine Intervention”. Have you ever gone through a period in your life when it feels like everything is going downhill and you’re at a loss and you don’t know what to do? You’re trying so hard to do the right thing, you labor over endless possibilities in your mind, but you couldn’t quite decide what you should do next. I’ve been through this predicament just a few weeks ago.

I was having this strange feeling that I can’t explain. I had this recurring bad feeling in my gut that refused to get out of my system. I knew something was wrong, I knew it, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. After trying to analyze it, time and time again, and failed, I finally gave up. I gave up trying to pinpoint the source of my inexplicable emotion, and just prayed. I surrendered the whole thing to God, and I took a step back, and let Him take the reins. See, I was really at a loss, I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. How can I do something about a feeling that I can’t even explain? So I surrendered it to God, and after a while, I felt a lot better.

Then one day, came the Divine Intervention. I will not go into details, let’s just say, God paved a way for me to be able to experience clarity. All at once, the confusion was gone and everything became clear to me. I’m not saying that I liked what I learned, because the TRUTH does not always come in pretty boxes with colorful ribbons, you know. I learned the naked truth and admittedly, it hurt. But I will never have it any other way, because I’d rather get hurt learning the truth, than go around in tiptoes behind useless pretensions. I stopped and thought about what happened, and I thanked God for letting it happen. I know it was His way of telling me that I did the right thing surrendering everything to Him.

What’s most amazing about the experience I had, was the powerful message and lesson that I got out of it. I learned that God really works in mysterious ways and acts at the most perfect timing that we won’t even see it coming. I used to think that I can control everything, that I can handle anything that goes on in my life. I was wrong. I learned that whenever I put matters into my own hands, I only get confused and worried, and then everything seems to fall apart. But when I allowed God to be in control, He knew what to do!

Sometimes I still do forget that God really is supposed to be in control. After all, He knows every single thing about me, and He knows what’s best for me. I just don’t usually give Him a chance to do the wonderful things He wants to do for me. And sometimes, all He wants is for me to relinquish control and let Him be in charge. Believe me, it’s such a wonderful feeling, it’s like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulder. He proved to me, that I have nothing to lose by letting Him be in charge of my life, only lots to gain. What happened made a big impact in my life, and it just made my faith stronger. I thank God everyday for meddling with my life and for always reminding me that I’m not in control. He is. And it never fails to put a smile in my heart.

Copyright©2008angel