Heart, Don’t Change My Mind
Have you ever experienced staying in a relationship that you know is not good for you, and yet you stayed anyway? I’m sure lots of women out there have experienced this “heart over mind” situation; their mind is telling them to let go, but their heart is pleading for them to hold on. It’s not an easy situation to be in. There’s always an internal struggle going on that keeps one from having peace of mind. It’s really exhausting having to deal with that struggle each and every day. And yet because most women are scared to lose the men in their lives, they choose to follow their heart instead.
There’s this song by Diana Ross, which is the exact same title of this post: Heart, Don’t Change My Mind. I really love this song, it’s sad and heartbreaking, and I know those who find themselves in this situation will be able to relate to this song. It really IS hard letting go of someone that you have loved for so long. You’ve given everything that you have into the relationship, everything that you are, and yet it still won’t work out and you still end up with a broken heart.
What most women fail to consider is that some relationships are really not meant to be. But because of a wide variety of reasons, they force it. They think that if they just hang in there, hold on, things are going to change for the better. Wrong. If a relationship is not meant to be, there is nothing that you can do to change that. You can stay, but you’ll be miserable. What you can do, is accept reality, and move on. It’s easier said than done, but that’s the truth.
Okay, so your mind is all made up, and you’re ready to do the right thing, but what do you do when your heart refuses to cooperate? It’s not going to be an easy task, you have to have enough courage to mute your heart and listen to reason. It’s never easy, because it hurts like hell. But it’s the only way to be truly free. It’s no use staying in a relationship when you know in your heart that’s it’s not meant to be. Your heart knows it, but refuses to accept it; and this is never good. You are trapped in the struggle, and if you’re not careful, you might not be able to get out.
Bottom line is, know when to follow your heart and know when to listen to your mind. It’s very important that you learn how to control your emotions. It’s important that you own your emotions, because if you allow them, they will consume you and control you, and it won’t be pretty.
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I am kind of in this situation now. I say kind of because my heart knows it’s not right too but it is difficult to get out. About a year and a half after we fell in love(or at least I did, is hard to believe he loves me) his ugly side came out. He just won’t leave though. I was hoping to keep my apartment but I think I am the one who will have to leave! He cannot accept that it is over and just stays here, I do not show him any affection anymore.
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i just hope i would be able to speak with you personally and share my great love story. i’m in a situation wherein i just have a lot of questions. i may have known the answer to most of them but my heart just shuts it off…
I am a certified hypnotherapist and I have to tell you, this is the major issue I see from more than half of my patients. Be true to yourself…you can only control what you do. The circumstances you find yourself in are completely of your making and you can just as easily create new, wonderful circumstances.
God bless,
Shawn
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Well!!!!.. Im 19teen and it was my first and silly little love story, may be its just going to be a tragedy now. Its all the same or different, may be my mind says do something and he doesnt like anything i do and finds faults in me saying you are not suposed to this and that, may be few things i did were wrong, but its become like i hav to keep on agreeing everything he tells me too, and now my mind doesnt agree, but my heart loves the best time we spend togather wen we are alone, and he’s with me in every place, only space separate is that i live with my parents…
But now its been 10days from the day he said its not going to get going between us, i missed him like hell, unknowingly i tried to work things out by talking which my heart said, and today its been worse, another guy proposed me and he blamed me for not giving a good answer that i was in a relationship, i meant it right and i just said we are only friends, and he didnt like it,… this broke my heart even more,…
today sat the whole day crying got a test tommorow, hope i dont mess up, wish i cud get going and stop thinking about him, really i hope i could do that,…
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