I once knew a man. His eyes stared into my soul and the weakness sank into my body as if I’d lost all control. We’d lay there and watch the moon as he’d caress me with his warm fingertips and everything I’d ever known was forgotten. We talked about nothing…yet it meant so much. And his kiss went on forever…the taste of his sweetness on my lips. When he held me, I knew, he never wanted to let me go and I thought I’d never let him. After time…the moon grew dark and fell out of the sky and my tears grew an ocean of sorrow. I lost him.

by: Nataliea Bornedo

After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping alive the spark of love. A little while ago I had started to go out with another woman. It was really my wife’s idea.

“I know that you love her,” she said one day, taking me by surprise.
“But I love YOU,” I protested.
“I know, but you also love her.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
“I thought that it would be pleasant to pass some time with you,”
I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment then said “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting”.

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu to her. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway through the entree, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me.

A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.

“Then it’s time for you to relax and let me return the favour,” I responded.

During the dinner we had an agreeable conversation, nothing extraordinary - but catching up on recent events of each others lives. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you”. I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.
“Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn’t be there but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant to me. I love you.”

At that moment I understood the importance of saying, in time: “I LOVE YOU” and giving our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than God and your family and friends. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off until “some other time”. Anyone that means something to you - you should spend time with them and let them know how much they mean to you as often as you can.

It depends on who is looking at the tenement walls
Whether he’s coming home or passing through
You can walk the streets and find so much to criticize
But that would be the easy thing to do
‘Coz there’s beauty in the concrete
If you see it with your heart
The sidewalks only hurt you
If you hate them from the start

You can blame the world if troubles come
And knock at your door
Let your weakness cut you down to size
If you find some fault with everything surrounding you
Maybe it’s your narrow-minded eyes
‘Coz there’s music in the city
If your ear is to the ground
Only nonbelievers never hear a single sound

This is a song not necessarily sweet
I’ll pass it on to folks that I never will meet
And if my words don’t make history
Just call it hardcore poetry

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Love Advice For Women #1: ART OF LETTING GO

I’ve now moved 300 miles (long way in Denmark) away from my ex. He’s with a new girl, the one he cheated on me with. We used to live together, had everything. He was my one and only. Now I have everything I want. New life, with my best friends who has moved along. My career is developing wonderful and I’ve met a wonderful guy who I know will treat me as I deserve. But yet everyday I feel like calling him to see if he has changed his mind… if he still loves me, thinks of me etc. I miss him so much, and can’t get him out of my mind. He lives with the new girl now. I assume he’s in love with her, and that makes me feel like I was just one in the row of his romances in life, where in my heart, he was my everything.

Every time I have to go back home to visit friends and family, I can’t help wanting to meet up with him, though we don’t. I don’t have any contact with him at all, but my heart aches! My friends has done everything possible, I have done everything… and now a year has gone by. I try so hard to keep my mind occupied with other things, but I can’t help thinking of him. I know he did bad things, that he’s no good for me anyway and that he does not deserve me, but I feel like I lost a part of myself that nobody can fulfill but him! Do you have any advice for me? It makes me very depressed sometimes because I feel so helpless, restless, confused and just questioning if we will ever get back together!

I love your site…. you are one of the few people in the world that really has the compassion needed for the rest of us to not feel alone. THANK YOU!! Have a wonderful day… and God Bless You!!

Love Advice for women #1:

You know, yours is a sad, painful story that I know lots of other women out there can relate to. It’s definitely hard letting go of someone you love so much, but you have to LEARN. No one can tell you what to do though, because you are your own person, but advice will always be given and it’s up to you which advice to take.I’m no expert in this, but let me try to give you my opinion. Please ask yourself. Did your ex-boyfriend ever try to contact you? While you’re wondering about him, is he wondering about you? While you’re feeling depressed and confused, is he feeling the same way? Or maybe he’s happy with his new life? You said so yourself, he’s with another girl, the one he has cheated on you with. I know it’s difficult to accept, but it really is quite simple. If he really loved YOU, he would choose you over that girl. Right? But he didn’t. He chose the other girl. That alone, is proof enough that you need to let go. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s not solely your fault he left. Love just works in mysterious ways, and we can never really understand why it has to end for some. There’s nothing wrong with you, maybe you’re just not meant for each other.

I know what you’re going through. It’s hard. When we love someone so much, we tend to give ourselves completely, and when that someone leaves, it feels like a part of us has died. It’s perfectly normal. It’s part of the grieving process. But sooner or later, you have to move on, COMPLETELY. Maybe some part of you is still hoping that you’ll get back together. Maybe what makes it difficult for you to let go completely. But you’re just making it worse for yourself. It’s not wrong to hope, but you’ve got to know when to stop. You can’t go on living your life stuck to the past. You said you have a wonderful new guy who treats you well, start from there.

Think about this. Maybe your ex is happy now. Can’t you just be happy for him? If you truly love him, you’ll learn to set him free in your heart and accept the fact that he’s happy somewhere else. Because if he isn’t, he should have come running straight back to you, the moment you got out of his life, right?

The pain and sadness will always be there I guess. but it will completely heal in time. Give yourself a chance to find love again. But you won’t be able to do that, if you still desperately cling to your past love. PRAY. God will help you through it. He’ll show you the right path. Just trust in Him. And trust in yourself that you can rise through this. Good luck! and let me know what happens.

Mind your own business; don’t interfere in other people’s personal matters unless they request you… it keeps you free from extra tension.

Don’t be too curious; never try to investigate or inquire about a person’s schedule, as these inquiries usually make you and the ones questioned uncomfortable.

Help yourself; always do your work yourself, try not to use help unless you actually need it. It keeps you busy and secondly it saves you the hassle of another’s carelessness.

Help other people; you get a lot of pleasure by helping the needy. Always be ready to lend a helpful hand. Thanks and warm wishes will make your journey, life, happy and safe.

Recognize small achievements; don’t aim too high as small goals are equally important. Always remember little droplets makeup the ocean. Your small achievements and virtues will also prove your worth.

Give thanks and say sorry; never hesitate to say thank you and sorry. It shows your kind and caring nature. It also compels other to respect you and advise you.

Remember God; always remember God, the Almighty. Pray for success and satisfaction in this life and after death.

After a while you learn,
The subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn’t mean possession
And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises
And you begin to accept your defeats,
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of an adult not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads today,
Because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans
And futures have ways of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
If you get too much.
So you plant your own garden,
And decorate your own soul
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
That you really are strong,
And you really do have worth
And you learn…
And you learn…

Veronica A. Shoffstall

1. If you open it, close it.
2. If you turn it on, turn it off.
3. If you unlock it, lock it up.
4. If you break it, admit it.
5. If you can’t fix it, call in someone who can.
6. If you borrow it, return it.
7. If you value it, take care of it.
8. If you make a mess, clean it up.
9. If you move it, put it back.
10. If it belongs to someone else, get permission to use it.
11. If you don’t know how to operate it, leave it alone.
12. If it’s none of your business, don’t ask questions.

You won’t be his first, his last, or his only. He’s loved before, he will love again. But if he loves you now, what else matters? He’s not perfect, and neither are you. The two of you will never be perfect. But if he makes you laugh, at least once, causes you to think twice and admits to being human, and making mistakes… hold on to him, and give him all you’ve got. He is not going to quote poetry. He is not going to be thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him, that he knows you can break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, don’t expect too much from him. Smile when he makes you happy, cry when he makes you sad and miss him when he’s not there…

Life is like the little decisions you make every day. Decisions of the past have had their effect, but every new day can be a new start. No matter what has happened up till now, you have a chance to make the right decisions today.

Don’t waste time reliving the pain of past mistakes and wrong decisions. That only saps your power to do what you can do today. You can’t change the past, but the future is what you make it, starting right now, so take full advantage of the present.

Learn from past mistakes and put them behind you today. Forgive those who wronged you and ask forgiveness from those you have wronged. That probably won’t be easy, but don’t put it off; do it today. Look to ME and My Word for fresh courage and hope, starting today. Dream new dreams today. Set new goals today. Spend your time on things that truly count today. Love your family today. Be a friend today. Do things better, starting today.

With My help, your future can be filled with wonderful accomplishment and fulfillment that will more than make up for past disappointments – and it all starts today.

FROM JESUS WITH LOVE

I was wrong when I hurt you
But did you have to hurt me too
Did you think revenge will make it better?
I don’t care about the past
I just want our love to last
There’s a way to bring us back together

I must forgive you
You must forgive me too
If you wanna try to put things back the way they used to be
‘Cause there’s no sense in going over and over
The same things as before
So let’s not bring the past back anymore
Honey let’s start again

Out of all the good we had
You only keep track of the bad
Though you knew I never really loved her
Didn’t anyone tell you yet
That to forgive is to forget
How can you be mad if you don’t remember?

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I’ve known what it’s like to be away from You, and it’s a lonely, painful existence. I don’t ever want to be in the dark again. Please don’t allow me to go back to that place. A place where all I can feel is longing and emptiness… where I face the world, always with a heavy heart. I can’t stand it.

I’ve felt what it’s like to be in Your presence. And it’s contentment and happiness beyond compare. I want to be inside Your light, all the time. When I’m there, even though I can feel all my problems, I become wrapped in hope and comfort. Even though I feel the pain, I can understand the necessity of it all. With you, I know that everything has a purpose, and that I have the strength to overcome anything. I want to be in Your presence, because with You, I feel safe and loved no matter what.

I need You. You’ve taken me out of the dark before, please don’t allow me to come back. I can’t do this on my own. Take my hand, and lead me, Lord. You know what’s best for me, and I trust You. Please, lead me to the right path. When I stray, gently lead me back to Your side because life away from You is unbearable. I owe everything to You. I owe my life, my soul, my everything… to You. I am NOTHING without YOU. You have ALL of me. I offer myself to You. And I will follow you wherever you will lead me. I love you so much, Jesus.

Copyright©2008angel

LOVE = we think about it, dream about it, lose sleep worrying about it. When we don’t have it, we search for it and when we discover it we don’t know what to do with it. We fear losing it. It is our source of pleasure and pain but we can’t predict which it will be from one moment to the next. It’s a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, and… impossible to live without.