Comments on: Long Distance Relationships http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/ Listen to your heart... live... love... and be inspired. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:32:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: LL http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-499 LL Thu, 27 Mar 2008 02:41:01 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-499 I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years, We are both in our 30's. We get along great ! talk almost everyday. He makes me so happy and is so interesting to talk with. The problem seems to be that everytime I want to see him on cam..He gets really defensive and asks WHY??? well i say "why not?" He says he will come to visit soon and we can meet then... Its very hard for me to have trust , when he will not even let me see him on camera, I have let him see , by the way....But these promises to meet always end up in some sort of incidence happening, and he just cannot come here yet.... This is my soulmate, I love him dearly but this refusal to let me see him as we talk is really bothersome and has me questioning his honesty, I have pictures of him...but its just not enough anymore, and after 2 years , i really think i deserve to have a face to face chat ! or either let him go and get on with my life....... I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years, We are both in our 30’s. We get along great ! talk almost everyday. He makes me so happy and is so interesting to talk with. The problem seems to be that everytime I want to see him on cam..He gets really defensive and asks WHY??? well i say “why not?” He says he will come to visit soon and we can meet then… Its very hard for me to have trust , when he will not even let me see him on camera, I have let him see , by the way….But these promises to meet always end up in some sort of incidence happening, and he just cannot come here yet…. This is my soulmate, I love him dearly but this refusal to let me see him as we talk is really bothersome and has me questioning his honesty, I have pictures of him…but its just not enough anymore, and after 2 years , i really think i deserve to have a face to face chat ! or either let him go and get on with my life……. ]]> By: aj http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-494 aj Mon, 17 Mar 2008 14:35:42 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-494 im in college right now and i started dating my boyfriend my senior year of high school..we have been dating for almost a year and a half and when he left for school i was soo upset but i eventually got over it and realized that he is not gone for good but as the year goes on i feel like being away from him gets worse not better everytime i leave him i feel like crying and this feeling doesnt go away until a couple days later… i miss him so much, he is my rock and the only person i can really confide in and i know i can do things without him but i dont like that i want to do things with him…and i know he is the one for me so i definitley dont want to give up and that quotes is perfect..i just wish i wasnt so upset about it im in college right now and i started dating my boyfriend my senior year of high school..we have been dating for almost a year and a half and when he left for school i was soo upset but i eventually got over it and realized that he is not gone for good but as the year goes on i feel like being away from him gets worse not better everytime i leave him i feel like crying and this feeling doesnt go away until a couple days later… i miss him so much, he is my rock and the only person i can really confide in and i know i can do things without him but i dont like that i want to do things with him…and i know he is the one for me so i definitley dont want to give up and that quotes is perfect..i just wish i wasnt so upset about it ]]> By: Long Distance Relationships http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-153 Long Distance Relationships Sat, 26 Jan 2008 04:07:06 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-153 I recently ended my long distance relationship of 1 year. My boyfriend was deployed for the second half of our relationship. Throughout his deployment he only communicated with me about once a month. I tried to be as understanding as possible and never complained about that. Even then, I would still send letters weekly (through the internet), and emails. He never wrote me one letter. Anyway, when he came back, and for the last half of the relationship he was pushing me away. What hurt the most is he never invited me to his Homecoming! I could believe it, but I still tried to stay positive. When we did see each other (1 week after he was back) things changed. For example, he never told me thank you (for standing by him while he was gone), I missed you, etc.... After we saw each other he did not call me for an entire week, which I talked to him about. He said he "could" work on calling more, but no promises were made on his part. A few days later he still did not call so this when I ended the relationship. When I talked to him about ending the relationship he said he sort of agreed. I feel I had to end it because my needs were going unmet and my boyfriend was only doing the bear minimum to keep me happy. I also knew I didnt want to be treated like a doormat. Anyway I was just wondering if you all think I gave up on my relationship too soon, or if this guy is a just being a jerk and ending it was the right choice? I recently ended my long distance relationship of 1 year. My boyfriend was deployed for the second half of our relationship. Throughout his deployment he only communicated with me about once a month. I tried to be as understanding as possible and never complained about that. Even then, I would still send letters weekly (through the internet), and emails. He never wrote me one letter.

Anyway, when he came back, and for the last half of the relationship he was pushing me away. What hurt the most is he never invited me to his Homecoming! I could believe it, but I still tried to stay positive. When we did see each other (1 week after he was back) things changed. For example, he never told me thank you (for standing by him while he was gone), I missed you, etc….

After we saw each other he did not call me for an entire week, which I talked to him about. He said he “could” work on calling more, but no promises were made on his part. A few days later he still did not call so this when I ended the relationship. When I talked to him about ending the relationship he said he sort of agreed. I feel I had to end it because my needs were going unmet and my boyfriend was only doing the bear minimum to keep me happy. I also knew I didnt want to be treated like a doormat.

Anyway I was just wondering if you all think I gave up on my relationship too soon, or if this guy is a just being a jerk and ending it was the right choice?

]]> By: gesel http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-163 gesel Mon, 10 Dec 2007 03:19:02 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-163 my bf and i broke up today....i rly felt the way that passage is written...i rly thought we wud work. i loved him so much...and i still do, but wen i found out he was leavin to study abroad, i got all these worries and doubts. but he convinced me to stick through, promising me that we would make it no matter what. his messages, his words...everything made me realise how he is worth waiting for. he's been gone since september and since i went up to visit him in oct which was gr8, and then in nov...where everythin went wrong...he ignored me, and said he was so busy (which he was, true) and he had no time for a relationship. everythin seems so unreal to me. i still love him so much and cant believe this is happening. today we broke up because he cant take the relationship in his life. he has no one else just that he fell out of love with me im thinking because his life is too hectic for a relationship...im so hurt. christmas is on its way and i was looking forward to spending a christmas wit him as he is coming back here for xmas time...how will i face him? im so dazed i cant believe this crap is real =( my bf and i broke up today….i rly felt the way that passage is written…i rly thought we wud work. i loved him so much…and i still do, but wen i found out he was leavin to study abroad, i got all these worries and doubts. but he convinced me to stick through, promising me that we would make it no matter what. his messages, his words…everything made me realise how he is worth waiting for.
he’s been gone since september and since i went up to visit him in oct which was gr8, and then in nov…where everythin went wrong…he ignored me, and said he was so busy (which he was, true) and he had no time for a relationship. everythin seems so unreal to me. i still love him so much and cant believe this is happening. today we broke up because he cant take the relationship in his life. he has no one else just that he fell out of love with me im thinking because his life is too hectic for a relationship…im so hurt.
christmas is on its way and i was looking forward to spending a christmas wit him as he is coming back here for xmas time…how will i face him?
im so dazed i cant believe this crap is real =( ]]> By: aman http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-159 aman Tue, 20 Nov 2007 05:11:50 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-159 I came upon this site at the perfect time! I was searching for a quote to look at each day because I'm in a long distance relationship and sometimes it gets hard...and the quote you had the beginning..wow it just made my day! its so true! I love my bf so much but there are days I just want to give up! But I don't at the same time because I can't see myself without him in the future at all..so I did ask my heart, "Is this worth it?" and I got my answer :) Thanks!!!!!!! I came upon this site at the perfect time! I was searching for a quote to look at each day because I’m in a long distance relationship and sometimes it gets hard…and the quote you had the beginning..wow it just made my day! its so true! I love my bf so much but there are days I just want to give up! But I don’t at the same time because I can’t see myself without him in the future at all..so I did ask my heart, “Is this worth it?” and I got my answer :) Thanks!!!!!!! ]]> By: ABC http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-160 ABC Sat, 03 Nov 2007 00:50:04 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-160 So true! One and only love of your life should deserve all the sacrifices. It is very painful like helplessly watching the ocean at night so lonely knowing that the love of your life who is in the other side of the world is sharing also the same fate! Thanks Imogen, I haven't time to say thank so I just do it now. I do enjoy coming back often to read your blog. So true! One and only love of your life should deserve all the sacrifices. It is very painful like helplessly watching the ocean at night so lonely knowing that the love of your life who is in the other side of the world is sharing also the same fate! Thanks Imogen, I haven’t time to say thank so I just do it now. I do enjoy coming back often to read your blog. ]]> By: marigold http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-158 marigold Wed, 31 Oct 2007 04:43:20 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-158 hey, i agree with your post. unfortunately, my exboyfriend doesn't. i really thought it was worth it (i still do) and i agree it is quite painful and hard. i've made trips back to our country just to see him for a month or so and leaving him every single time still hurts. i've spent an average 80-100 dollars a week on phone cards just to talk on a regular basis. i've put my social life to a pause, just so i can stay home & talk to him via webcam/internet.... but what hurts more is the break up. up until today, i still can't find closure because i feel like distance is keeping us from having that closure i need to be able to move on. i read on your LOVE STORIES page about break ups where you wrote if he's not calling you or wondering if you're in pain, then what's the point. that hurt cos its so true. but anyways, just wanted to say i love your posts. i can relate to most. and for those who are in long distance relationships, good luck. its very hard. i just hope you and your partner are more determined than my failed relationship. hey, i agree with your post. unfortunately, my exboyfriend doesn’t. i really thought it was worth it (i still do) and i agree it is quite painful and hard. i’ve made trips back to our country just to see him for a month or so and leaving him every single time still hurts. i’ve spent an average 80-100 dollars a week on phone cards just to talk on a regular basis. i’ve put my social life to a pause, just so i can stay home & talk to him via webcam/internet…. but what hurts more is the break up. up until today, i still can’t find closure because i feel like distance is keeping us from having that closure i need to be able to move on. i read on your LOVE STORIES page about break ups where you wrote if he’s not calling you or wondering if you’re in pain, then what’s the point. that hurt cos its so true. but anyways, just wanted to say i love your posts. i can relate to most. and for those who are in long distance relationships, good luck. its very hard. i just hope you and your partner are more determined than my failed relationship. ]]> By: Farinoush http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-154 Farinoush Sat, 20 Oct 2007 07:15:29 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-154 You know, how about you find the one you've been looking for always, and you find him or her when you were traveling? Thanks for all your beautiful posts. You know, how about you find the one you’ve been looking for always, and you find him or her when you were traveling?
Thanks for all your beautiful posts. ]]> By: imogen http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-155 imogen Sat, 20 Oct 2007 03:39:29 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-155 hang in there, thomas. :) thanks for your comment! hang in there, thomas. :) thanks for your comment! ]]> By: Thomas http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-156 Thomas Fri, 19 Oct 2007 16:50:30 +0000 http://poundingheartbeat.com/2007/06/06/long-distance-relationships/#comment-156 Thank you. All I can really say for what you posted is thank you. Still, I'll try for some more. I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl who lives over a thousand miles away. One year on the phone has made an extraordinary connection between us. Heck--last night while talking to her on the phone, I was laying on my bed in pain because I can't be with her. Thank you. All I can really say for what you posted is thank you. Still, I’ll try for some more. I’m in a long-distance relationship with a girl who lives over a thousand miles away. One year on the phone has made an extraordinary connection between us. Heck–last night while talking to her on the phone, I was laying on my bed in pain because I can’t be with her. ]]>