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Long Distance Relationships

angel on Jun-6-2007

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What I have with him is worth it. It is worth every lonely night, every tear I cry from missing him, and the pain I feel from not having him close. It is worth it because he is my one and only. When I picture myself years from now, I see only him. No matter how painful distance can be, not having him in my life would be worse.

This passage is a classic example of what people involved in long distance relationships have to go through each and every single day without their loved ones by their side. The passage is beautiful, and heartfelt, and it really speaks of sadness, and longing… of enduring love.

There are those people who CHOOSE to endure the pain, because they know in their hearts that it’s really worth it. There are a lot of reasons why there are so many long distance relationships in the world. Most common reason I think is WORK. One partner has to go away to work and the other’s left behind. Another issue is, GEOGRAPHY. You meet someone who lives far far away and is geographically undesirable but you feel something special for him, and you just can’t let it pass.

I think regardless of the reason, the hard earned fact still remains. Long distance relationships are ridiculously painful! Especially if you’re both really in love with each other, and it’s a really serious relationship (not just some superficial fling). We’re talking about real, deep, profound kind of love. When the absence of your loved one, is really killing you, tearing your heart apart. And just when you’re almost ready to give up… you realize… you really really love him. And you want to be with him so much, you realize you’re willing to wait. And hang on to a hope, that someday, you’ll be together again.

On the other hand, there are also lots of people who don’t really mind having long distance relationships. Of course, we are all different when it comes to love, right? For those who are involved in a long distance relationship, really look into your heart, and ask yourself, “Is this worth it?” Then let the answer to that question guide you to what you should do next.

Copyright©2008angel

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  1. SooSaaNaa said,

    hey I really love ur site it’s soooo amazing and relaxing…it happens to be in a bad mood when I 1st saw this amazing site and it really affected me and changed my mood.

    for this topic i adore it coz i’m involved in such relation and my Love and only one is far far away for studying :( it’s true I love him sooo madly and although he’s far away i cant stop thinking about him, nor forgetting him for a moment as if he is living with me and watching me….sometimes i gave up and became so weak..but this case just last for few moments then i go back to my crazy love for him…and i know deep in my heart that true Love can stand against all odds..and can cross all distance…at the end Yup it really worth it coz I cant live without him…

    thnx for the great effort and keep it up :)
    peace & love

  2. imogen (83 comments.) said,

    i know how you feel… loving someone despite the distance is hard. but at the end of the day, what really matters is your love for each other. and if you think it’s really worth it, what you have with him, then you should be able to fight for that love. it’s worth the sacrifice. thanks for your beautiful comment! :)

  3. catherine said,

    hi i think the passage is beautiful, i met someone and i’ve never believed in love at first sight until i saw him. that view changed. He was only in the country for 2 days and he was here on vacation.. those 2 days were amazing. I cant believe the instant attraction we had for each other. We still talk to each other on msn. He does not know how strongly i feel for him..and i’m worried it will scare him off if i tell him. He’s only been gone 3 weeks but everything i do reminds me of him. I’m also worried that he’ll find a girlfriend at home. i don’t know whether i should carry on the way i have been and hope a miracle occurs and hope in time he will come to feel the way i do (i don’t even know he does yet) or, tell him how i feel and risk not chatting to him in the same way ever again ?

  4. Nuwi (1 comments.) said,

    Hi imogen! I’m from Indonesia, and yeaaa, i founded this blog when i writed down “long distance relationship” in google search. I found this article on the top of site, and click on this web..

    Your article is really cheering me up :)))))))) btw i curently on my LDR, my boyfriend is in Inkom, Idaho, USA since the Middle of this august 2007, He went there for students exhange (Nacel OPEN DOOR program) for 10 months.. Ive been in crush with him since i was in my juniour year of high school while he is my senior sophomore.. Couldnt believe in March 07 we’re a real couple… High school Dreams do come true.. We love each other very much, we’re more than best friend.. Our summer stories in July was really unforgettable.. And in august, he left.. I cried for a week, in school, in bed, everywhere.. I still clearly remember my tigheesstt ‘last’ hug with him in the airport gate. And well, for the first weeks, its soo hard to face these distances. But Yeah.. Time heals.. And here is it now, October.. I am fine, pretty good, while he’s surelyy still in touch with me, messaged me with those ‘hey.. i love you :)” words in every end of messages.. :) It’s surely put up some smiles in my face, put some spirits for me to love my life here in Jakarta.. And to always remember those summer 07 stories that i spennnttt with him.. To always love him deeply inside.. And yeah, i get that, June 08 will come soon rite..? Soo what should i worried for..? Time’s surely tickin.. And i surely always in love with him..

    Btw thanks for this article.. I read this, and surely it helps and cheers me a lott… :) You’re a great advisor for these love thingys, guess! :)))) And hey, will you pray for me that my relationship with my bf will always last, ever after..? Hehe, omgoddd once again thanks for wrote this article Imogen :) keep in toucchh :))

    Nuwi.
    Jakarta, Indonesia

  5. imogen (83 comments.) said,

    hey Nuwi! :) you’re sweet.. thanks for your comment! i’m glad you liked what i wrote in this post, and that you can relate. it’s really hard to be away from someone you love, but like i said, if you really love each other and you’re meant to be together, no distance can change what you both have. hold on to that. i wish you and your boyfriend all the best. and i’ll include you in my prayers. ;)

  6. Thomas said,

    Thank you. All I can really say for what you posted is thank you. Still, I’ll try for some more. I’m in a long-distance relationship with a girl who lives over a thousand miles away. One year on the phone has made an extraordinary connection between us. Heck–last night while talking to her on the phone, I was laying on my bed in pain because I can’t be with her.

  7. imogen (83 comments.) said,

    hang in there, thomas. :) thanks for your comment!

  8. Farinoush said,

    You know, how about you find the one you’ve been looking for always, and you find him or her when you were traveling?
    Thanks for all your beautiful posts.

  9. marigold said,

    hey, i agree with your post. unfortunately, my exboyfriend doesn’t. i really thought it was worth it (i still do) and i agree it is quite painful and hard. i’ve made trips back to our country just to see him for a month or so and leaving him every single time still hurts. i’ve spent an average 80-100 dollars a week on phone cards just to talk on a regular basis. i’ve put my social life to a pause, just so i can stay home & talk to him via webcam/internet…. but what hurts more is the break up. up until today, i still can’t find closure because i feel like distance is keeping us from having that closure i need to be able to move on. i read on your LOVE STORIES page about break ups where you wrote if he’s not calling you or wondering if you’re in pain, then what’s the point. that hurt cos its so true. but anyways, just wanted to say i love your posts. i can relate to most. and for those who are in long distance relationships, good luck. its very hard. i just hope you and your partner are more determined than my failed relationship.

  10. ABC (5 comments.) said,

    So true! One and only love of your life should deserve all the sacrifices. It is very painful like helplessly watching the ocean at night so lonely knowing that the love of your life who is in the other side of the world is sharing also the same fate! Thanks Imogen, I haven’t time to say thank so I just do it now. I do enjoy coming back often to read your blog.

  11. aman said,

    I came upon this site at the perfect time! I was searching for a quote to look at each day because I’m in a long distance relationship and sometimes it gets hard…and the quote you had the beginning..wow it just made my day! its so true! I love my bf so much but there are days I just want to give up! But I don’t at the same time because I can’t see myself without him in the future at all..so I did ask my heart, “Is this worth it?” and I got my answer :) Thanks!!!!!!!

  12. gesel said,

    my bf and i broke up today….i rly felt the way that passage is written…i rly thought we wud work. i loved him so much…and i still do, but wen i found out he was leavin to study abroad, i got all these worries and doubts. but he convinced me to stick through, promising me that we would make it no matter what. his messages, his words…everything made me realise how he is worth waiting for.
    he’s been gone since september and since i went up to visit him in oct which was gr8, and then in nov…where everythin went wrong…he ignored me, and said he was so busy (which he was, true) and he had no time for a relationship. everythin seems so unreal to me. i still love him so much and cant believe this is happening. today we broke up because he cant take the relationship in his life. he has no one else just that he fell out of love with me im thinking because his life is too hectic for a relationship…im so hurt.
    christmas is on its way and i was looking forward to spending a christmas wit him as he is coming back here for xmas time…how will i face him?
    im so dazed i cant believe this crap is real =(

  13. Long Distance Relationships (1 comments.) said,

    I recently ended my long distance relationship of 1 year. My boyfriend was deployed for the second half of our relationship. Throughout his deployment he only communicated with me about once a month. I tried to be as understanding as possible and never complained about that. Even then, I would still send letters weekly (through the internet), and emails. He never wrote me one letter.

    Anyway, when he came back, and for the last half of the relationship he was pushing me away. What hurt the most is he never invited me to his Homecoming! I could believe it, but I still tried to stay positive. When we did see each other (1 week after he was back) things changed. For example, he never told me thank you (for standing by him while he was gone), I missed you, etc….

    After we saw each other he did not call me for an entire week, which I talked to him about. He said he “could” work on calling more, but no promises were made on his part. A few days later he still did not call so this when I ended the relationship. When I talked to him about ending the relationship he said he sort of agreed. I feel I had to end it because my needs were going unmet and my boyfriend was only doing the bear minimum to keep me happy. I also knew I didnt want to be treated like a doormat.

    Anyway I was just wondering if you all think I gave up on my relationship too soon, or if this guy is a just being a jerk and ending it was the right choice?

  14. aj said,

    im in college right now and i started dating my boyfriend my senior year of high school..we have been dating for almost a year and a half and when he left for school i was soo upset but i eventually got over it and realized that he is not gone for good but as the year goes on i feel like being away from him gets worse not better everytime i leave him i feel like crying and this feeling doesnt go away until a couple days later… i miss him so much, he is my rock and the only person i can really confide in and i know i can do things without him but i dont like that i want to do things with him…and i know he is the one for me so i definitley dont want to give up and that quotes is perfect..i just wish i wasnt so upset about it

  15. LL said,

    I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years, We are both in our 30’s. We get along great ! talk almost everyday. He makes me so happy and is so interesting to talk with. The problem seems to be that everytime I want to see him on cam..He gets really defensive and asks WHY??? well i say “why not?” He says he will come to visit soon and we can meet then… Its very hard for me to have trust , when he will not even let me see him on camera, I have let him see , by the way….But these promises to meet always end up in some sort of incidence happening, and he just cannot come here yet…. This is my soulmate, I love him dearly but this refusal to let me see him as we talk is really bothersome and has me questioning his honesty, I have pictures of him…but its just not enough anymore, and after 2 years , i really think i deserve to have a face to face chat ! or either let him go and get on with my life…….

  16. kashif (1 comments.) said,

    i love this website .because it is describing the reality of love and its disasters…pleas do some more things and categories about love and life..

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